THE ULTIMATE
Hey buddy! Long time, right?
It's been a long time since I have written a blog or rather just shared yet another recent lesson learned on the way. I hope all has been well with you and you are working hard every single day to achieve the kind of life you dream of living, and yes that's possible - just also include fun on the way as it will help you to relax, calm and rejuvenate your soul, heart, mind and body! Alright getting back to what is it which I have to share today with you - but before I d0 - I would love for you to grab up a cup of coffee, or tea - whatever feels right for you, and make a promise to read this blog completely as half things will take you half way, would you agree? I know you don't have much time, but still would love for you to take 5-10 minutes to understand it's depth, meaning because in life, according to me - our experiences and the people we meet along the way - they teach us the most important lessons! So, let's begin : - Lately, I have been going through many things in my life and specially one thing which I am realizing every single day is that growing up for me, specially this phase seems too hard and it is just teaching me so many lessons day by day that I have stopped caring about the big stuff anymore! Would you like to know these lessons, but remember the rule is what? The rule is to apply them in your life :) and not just be another reader.. 1. No one can ever define you Have you ever noticed when we were children, what we used to do? We never took things so seriously and whosoever spoke, we didn't pay attention because that was a phase where everybody was into the "COMFORT AND JOY MODE" - would you agree? But the only question which comes is why is that we start to pay more attention to all the judgements, opinions, criticism, and we listen to the whole bunch which people throw on us whether they know us or not - and we accept it the way they are sent! And that's where all our confidence comes down, the self esteem comes down, and we start seeing ourselves the way people tell us how we are. Lately, I have been going through this a lot - what never used to worry me, now it does, what never used to make me feel so conscious, now it makes me feel insecure as if people are monsters and all they are going to do is judge! And I got into the this trap of "WHAT WILL OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME?" But you know what - the one thing I take pride in is - I try to find the message in the mess, yes it takes time for me to do that and to come out of the phase but I do! The one major reason why I am writing this is because when I help you, I help myself. When I heal you, I heal some part of me which is in pain till today. When I share these lessons with you, I am actually unconsciously sharing these lessons to my inner self who has been lost again. Of course, life is all about losing and finding yourself again and again, would you agree? So whenever you feel insecure, low or you get a feeling as if people are judging you or backbiting about you - let them do whatever they want because ask yourself - is what they say is always trye? Do they know you? and the most important question - WHO ARE THEY TO JDUGE YOU? ARE THEY PERFECT? ARE THEY GOD? Even God is not perfect, right? I really love this quote by Winston Churchill, he says - "You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks!" Let them judge you as they can't define you, Let them say whatever they want about you, it should not distract you, Let them show as if they have a lot of courage, but actually they don't because if they would have, they would be standing at your place, Let them bark, you don't need to pay attention to such people! If you know who you are, you don't have to explain it to anybody If you know your own heart, you don't need to validate your definition from anyone The one rule I follow in my life is I don't sit on the tables where when I leave, I become the topic of someone's useless chatter! It will take time, but it will surely happen :) 2. Pick The Right Ones You don't need to look at quantity, just focus for the quality of people in your life. I don't want to see your bodies on Instagram, I don't want to see your fake smiles on Instagram with fake people, show the real ones! Don't believe everything which comes on social media, it's not someone's whole life, you are only allowed to see what they show you, right? A lot of us we try to run after the numbers, but my buddy, what matters is out of those numbers, how many are going to be with you? How many of them will be true to you? How many of them will be loyal to you? How many of them will not leave you no matter what? You know what, I used to run after the people who doesn't even valued me, I used to run after the ones who didn't even care to show me their love, I used to run after the ones who were rude with me, I used to run after the ones who showed no interest while they were with me, I used to run after the ones with whom I would expect a lot and all those were ruined, I used to run after the ones who never supported me in anything But, I guess there comes a time when you meet few people in your life who treats you the way you deserve to be treated and then you suddenly get this feeling "These are the right ones, why the hell was I running after the wrong people!?" My best friend has taught me one of the most important lesson - which is - even if you have a small circle and you are happy in that - even when someone calls your life boring it would not affect you because you know you are happy with those few true people of yours, right? Life humbles you. As you grow old, you stop chasing the big things and start valuing the little things. Alone time, enough sleep, a good diet, long walks, books, quality time with the special ones who matter - Simplicity becomes the ultimate goal, not the ROYAL LIFE which makes you feel UPSET AT THE END! There are many more things which I want to share with you, but only when I am able to overcome them someday! I hope these two lessons were a bulb on for you and you are going to implement them! All I want you to do further more is never give up, no matter how hard it feels, be an example to this world - you don't have to do big things - just start taking the small steps eventually they will turn the big ones :) The reason I kept the name as REBUILDING MY HEART-HOME AGAIN - is because I feel in the midst of all these challenges, I have lost myself and I am just finding ways to rebuild her again :) so she can have her strength and power back in her own hands.. From now onwards, I will try to be more regular and find out this peaceful time to write such things as you know what - you never fail to make me happy no matter what I am going through. Thank you so much for reading it, do let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Sending you love and light Gargi Arya India's Youngest Certified Life Coach & Trainer
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Have you ever sat down just to ask questions like "Why only few are able to make it to the top?", "Why people give up when they are almost at the finishing line?", "Why some people even when they have dreams, why don't they chase it?" and stuff like that! What do you think why not all the 8 billion people are living their dreams?
The reason is pretty simple yet when it comes to implementation, it's like taking a risk :) According to me and my experience - the only skill you need to follow and chase your dreams is - COURAGE! And, most people believe that courage is when you are not afraid of anything but my friend, that's the biggest myth! Courage is defined as even when you are scared to do something, you shed your tears and you face your fears! And when someone keeps taking risks all day long - they are able to live a life up to their mark! Would you like to live that kind of life? Taking risks does not always mean things like skydiving, or the shows we watch on television where people are jumping high from the mountains, they are told to stay in a box where so many insects are kept, have you ever watched, I think the name is "Khatron Ke Khiladi", but risk taking does not always mean doing these kind of activities! Here, risk taking means becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable! For example, one of the toughest things for me when I started on this journey was to make a video as I was so much afraid what will people think of me? But you know I gave myself a 21 day challenge - and I did it! That's courage Showing up every single day isn't easy but still I do - That's courage Of all the people you admire - the one common quality in all of them is they have a strong committed mindset - if they have decided to do something - they are going to do it no matter what! Would you agree? Many people live a long time but they don’t truly live because they let their stress and frustration get in their way, would you agree? Ask yourself - are you doing the same? Most people when they’re asked about what causes them stress, they usually reply, “Well, I’ve got to do this. I’ve got to make this thing happen” to which I respond, “Well what if you don’t?” Achievers usually believe they have to succeed or everything will fall apart, And then that will ultimately make them a failure. - but remember this one thing - failure is what helps you to upgrade to the next level! My secret to success is I have failed more than you, and that's why I am successful! Every single day - I fail at something and I am proud of it :) All you need to do is make a list of all the things that you need to do to move forward towards your goals, and divide them into easy, medium and hard! Start with easy - take 1 day to complete all those pending tasks, then you take the "hard ones" and give yourself a deadline to complete it! One of the things I always keep on my table is "MY WHY" - Why do I do what I do - whenever I feel lazy or I feel that I am procrastinating very much - I just go on reading the full sheet of reasons why it's important for me! Create one for yourself. Today, intentionally wanted to keep it a short blog in a point shooter style! Hope you liked it :) do share your thoughts in the comments :) Welcome to the second blog of Magical Morning Blogs. I hope you are enjoying reading these blogs with me as much I enjoy while writing them :) First of all, a very happy international happiness day - a day to be more happy, of course, right? That's why I want to take the topic of happiness and help you to understand that happiness is not something you can ever find outside, happiness comes from within. In today's world, have you ever sat down and actually asked - Why do the relationships suffer? It's not because of someone's fault, or mistake in that - most of the relationships suffer because of these two reasons - 1. Myth 1 - The person next to you in your bond is responsible for making you happy! I mean, seriously? Most of the relationships suffer because the people don't take 100% responsibility for their own mood swings, and that creates a whole mess when you pressurize someone to make you happy! Don't you ever do that. I believed the same fact since childhood, but when I was going through depression, things started becoming clearer and clearer to me and thus, I started speaking to myself "I am responsible for my own happiness, no one else is", I made sure to repeat this one sentence many times a day and today - I don't really care who hurts me because I left that myth earlier, even if I am hurt, even if I feel sad - I know how to get back on track and it's me who uplifts my own mood :) 2. Myth 2 - It's a 50-50% game Relationships is not 50-50 game. don't you ever believe in this myth, because when you are coming from a place of 50% - let me tell you - the relationship never becomes a healthy and successful one, rather it becomes the most toxic relationship you will ever have in your life and I am sure you don't want that! Right? Even if you feel it's a 50-50 game, take that 50% as your 100% and then see how it works! Everything works if you are willing to work upon it :) Grab a cup of tea or coffee and let me take you along with me in the 11 ways on how can you re-create your happiness and take charge of your own moods! 1. Do what you loveDon't work for other people! Work for yourself Don't make your life as per to what people want from you, make your life as per what you want for yourself! Once you understand these two things - you can create a beautiful and magical life for yourself because then you are going to work for yourself, you are going to enjoy your work and it won't become a boring job for you - it won't create a pressure for you! And even if something happens - at least you won't regret that you never listen to you! The reason why I do this is because I love helping people, I have a dream, I have a vision and I know where I am going! I never have plan B because I know it will work as I am willing to work upon it no matter what and I will take it to the place I want to take it and I take 100% responsibility of it! Are you getting it? Do what makes you happy and it will make a huge difference in your life :) 2. Stop ComparingYesterday, I was interviewing Mr. Uday Iyer - Singer, Communication Skills Specialist, Winner of Super Speaker Season 2 (Success Gyan) , and he told that the one huge element of his success is that HE ERADICATED COMPARISION FROM HIS LIFE, and that was such a bulb on moment for me because most of us are always comparing ourselves with others on appearances, seeing what they have and what we don't, and things like that, would you agree? But I can tell you something the biggest idiot in your life then it's you! Why? As whenever we judge, or compare ourselves with anyone - we hurt ourselves not them! The only thing here I will tell you is HONOR YOUR OWN SPEED, don't be in a hurry! Don't rush - everyone has a time, everyone has their own shining times and you will shine! Just keep going, keep on keeping on with your work and your dreams, have fun and chill! 3. Make A ListOne of the things that my mentor taught me was to keep a "JOY LIST" which is just making a list of all the things which makes me happy and I always keep it on my table as whenever I feel down or hurt, I just take a look on the list and do those things to make me happy! Remember this - "I am responsible for my own happiness"! 4. JournalJournal out your thoughts when things get messed up or include this in your schedule to write your thoughts every single morning onto paper, ask yourself some introspective questions like who am I, what am I feeling right now, how can I upgrade to the next level, what's working for me, what's not, am I going on right track, what are the things I can improve on, who do I want to become, etc. such things when you write down - will help you to become clear and you will have a 100% idea of where are you going in life! 5. Be around those who make you happy!Your environment plays a huge role in your life as you are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with! Even if you don't do anything out of the things I am telling you and you simply focus on improving your environment day by day - my friend, everything will work out! If you surround yourself with the right kind of people who support you, applaud you, cherish you, are always there to help you - it will be better for you and your life - but if you surround yourself with the negative people like naysayers, dream stealers - the result will be the destruction of your own life! You must have heard how one rotten apple can destroy the good apples when kept in the same basket! The earlier you get it, the better it is for you to make a change! 6. Gratitude MindsetOne of the things which has helped me to overcome my depression was every single day, writing down 10 things for which I am grateful! And it has become so addictive that I never miss a day to write gratitude as it shifts my perspective from negative to positive and helps me to find message even when everything is just messed up! The more you appreciate what you have got in the now moment, the more of it will be showered upon you and the more you criticize what you have got now by focusing on what you don't have, what you do have will be taken away from you, so which state do you choose to live in - decide today - scarcity or abundance? 7. Do something for othersWhen you give what you want it will help you to feel better! Whenever you feel that you want more love, give out more love, when you feel you want to be appreciated, appreciate some other person - the more you give what you want, it will come to you in thousand times! Would you agree? 8. Always have something to look forLife is not about looking back, it's about looking forward to all the beautiful and adventurous things which are coming up for you! So, from next time don't you ever google out how to be happy in life as now you know it is a journey not a destination, got it? The more you spend time in your past, the more you will feel depressed - the more you spend time in your future thinking about your dreams and imagining the kind of life you will live - the more motivated you will feel in your present to work hard for your future! 9. Know when to say noLearn the art of saying no as when you say no to others you actually say yes to one person you neglect for most of your life that is YOU! Always add a compensation, let's say if my friend is calling me and I am taking a session or I am in my work - I will ping her that right now, not in a place to talk to you, is it okay if I call you up at 6 or we meet tomorrow anytime? Do you notice I straight away didn't say no - I added a compensation so I won't feel guilty and she won't feel left out! Isn't it a nice hack? :) 10. Take time to understand yourselfYou can’t create your own happiness when you don’t know yourself deeply. You need regular “me time.” A weekly warm bath, a night in with a favorite movie or a regular yoga class will help you stay connected to your inner needs and give you the energy you need to give to others. When we let go and follow our pull of passion, we open up the space for happiness. We realize that life is not happening to us, it is happening for us! When you reach this realization, you have achieved the mindset shift that will allow you to create your own happiness. You will realize your path has become clearer and obstacles have fallen away. And most importantly, no matter what happens in life, you are always more than that moment – and more than the story you have created. How will you make your own happiness? 11. Move Your BodyI highly recommend you dance for this :) as whenever I feel low, I just dance my heart out on energetic songs and it just helps me to move out of my comfort zone, stop the chatter going within and follow my heart!
I hope this blog really helped you! So the next time you feel - happiness is not for you - just know that maybe you are putting the pressure on someone else to make you happy - uplift, stand up and face it with a big smile on your face, can you do that? That's how champions are made :) Change is inevitable but progress is optional! Would you agree? First of all, I really want to appreciate you for the fact that you are taking out your precious time to be with me for the next couple of minutes to understand the "Game of Life" and how can you be a great player in it and eventually a champion of the whole game of life! But before you move ahead - I have a concern and the concern is while you read on - you might get distracted and just shut the tab off! So do you have the courage to take up this challenge that you are going to complete it no matter what! You are going to not only read, but make notes as well so later you can start implementing from today itself as you know there is no tomorrow, yes? From today, we are starting with this series called - "MIRACLE MORNING BLOGS" where every single day - will be posting a new blog at 5 am so the minute you wake up - in your morning routine - you can start adding this- to read something uplifting or inspiring! Can you do that? Why have I started? As most of us the minute we wake up - you know our eyes are not even opened fully, and we start to watch the social media to check the messages, to know what's happening in someone else's life, would you agree? But you know you are actually destroying your own life by straight away opening social media! AS YOUR BRAIN IS getting rewired again strongly to become lazy and distracted and thus you are not able to focus the whole day! The reason of me doing this is because I heard somewhere that - "The best way to change your life is to change the way you start your day", are you ready? Today's topic is - 5 Simple Steps to create the life you want! Do you know every human gets the chance to live two lives - first - the victim life (whatever is happening, you just accept it - listening to other people - not believing in yourself, always complaining, blaming and making excuses) and the second one is optional because it makes you feel scary - the life of your dreams! Why does it scare you? It scares you because it makes you uncomfortable, it forces you to expand and move out of the comfort zone and that is the one most horrible reason why people don't live an extraordinary life! 1. UNDERSTANDThe first step towards creating a life of your dreams is that you need to UNDERSTAND where are you currently in your life! Self awareness or analysis is the first step towards change, as you need to be aware of where you are right now so you can move to the next level and go to the place where you want to be. How can you do that? By spending time in solitude every single day! Just remember not to keep your phone during that time otherwise you know what will happen, right? I heard this quote somewhere that the quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself! So, when a challenge comes up and you ask yourself - Why me? The result will be you will end up blaming, complaining and making excuses - but when say "Try Me", do you see that the energy and frequency level completely shifts? The first step is to see things the way they are. It sounds easy enough, but the truth is that as humans, we tend to either see things as better or worse than they are. Our perspective depends on many factors, including our limiting beliefs and the way we prioritize our six human needs. Understanding why you are the way you are is essential for you to be able to create the life you want. Now take an honest look at your life. Are you being true to yourself? Only when you get in touch with yourself can you stop hiding behind a mask – and stop going after goals you don’t really want. 2. ImagineAfter you get the awareness of where you are - you can straight away move on to where you want to be but yes the gap needs to be filled by imagining it first. Every single day, take out time to make peace with your past and to remember your future! Always remember either you can live in your past, or you can live in your present by daily remembering your future! To uncover your dream life, use the rocking chair method. Imagine that you’re 90 years old, and you’re in your rocking chair, looking back on your life. Maybe you’re telling your grandkids about all of your adventures and the lessons you’ve learned.What are you most proud of? What are your biggest regrets? Is there anything you wish you had achieved, or made more time for? Take those regrets and accomplishments and visualize them as goals. You’re beginning to mentally create the life you want. The key to visualization is to treat it as if it’s already happened. Use action words like “I am” and “I can.” I am fit and healthy. I am my own boss. I can attend every important event for my family. Get total clarity on your vision. 3. DecideTo create the life you want, you must decide you want it more than anything – and you must truly believe you can achieve it. Have you ever keenly observed the mindset of successful people? They have one thing in common that they choose how to react to their circumstances. They even choose the way they feel. It’s an empowering mindset that puts them in the driver’s seat. Everything starts with the most beautiful yet hard principle which is - TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR LIFE - which means No blaming, No complaining and No excuses! You’ll also need to prioritize yourself and your dreams. You may need to let go of guilt that other areas of your life won’t be getting as much of your focus. You may have to make major changes in your life. You may think, “the time just isn’t right.” Tim Ferriss says, “Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you.” You already have the key to your dream door - now you decide whether to open it or stare it! 4. ACTMr. Tony Robbins says - A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided! Don’t be one of the people who settles for an ordinary life. It’s time to make yours a masterpiece. To create the life you want, you must bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Set goals. Write them down. Better yet, tell a friend. The act of writing or saying your goals out loud tricks your brain into thinking they’ve already happened. Then when you achieve them, you reinforce the entire process, training your brain to expect success – which leads to even more success. Break your goals into small daily tasks Join a mastermind group, find a mentor or start making a website. Every goal you achieve will begin to create the life you want. 5. BelieveIt isn’t always easy to create the life you want. Our human need for certainty can keep us stuck in unproductive patterns.
We stay in unfulfilling relationships because they’re familiar. We stay at jobs we hate because we need a steady paycheck. Breaking these patterns requires a strong belief in yourself and your vision. Writing in a journal will not only remind you of your goals, but allow you to see how far you’ve come. Remember to celebrate those successes – and learn from the failures. Identify where the problem arose, but don’t dwell on it. Always focus on solutions. Growth is addictive. Once you achieve a goal, you’ll start a cycle of success. The gap between the life you are living and the life you want to live is only action and that's the area where most of us fall! So, basically there are 3 steps - 1. See things the way they are 2. See things the way you want them to be 3. Make it happen! Do share your thoughts in the comments :) In life, it's said that as you grow, your experiences grow and thus, the lessons grow! And it's better to carry them and if possible, share it with others so they can learn and grow as you are going towards your journey! My mentor Blair Singer says "Greed is having a gift and not giving it!", that simply means that if you have something within you which can help others grow and change their lives yet you are not doing that - it means what? It simply means that you are greedy! Grab a cup of tea or coffee, whatever you like - and for the next 10-15 minutes, stay focused and concentrated on this blog because I truly believe that if you apply these points in your life, you will never be the same person again :) 1. Pressure Is What Creates DiamondsDo you know how diamonds are made? Well, if you know - great and if you don't know - here is how the whole process goes! When the tree falls in mud, after a couple of days it settles, disappears and turns into coal - When the coal is under pressure - the diamonds come out! Would you agree? Have you ever been into any courses or seminars where you might have gone through some written exercises, demonstrations or role plays and after doing it - finally got a big breakthrough moment? How does that happen? Because through those activities- you are put into the psychological pressure and you break your resistance! And thus, after those activities - your new version - the LEADER YOU comes out who is not afraid of anything and is on fire :) The diamond comes out of the person, would you agree? So, whenever you feel you are not able to handle something, or your resistance is not allowing you to move forward, any trauma is there, or any reason - Do something which can reduce that feeling! I remember there was a point in my life when I used "Screaming and Shouting" a way to get out of my depression (When there was no one in the house), I am not telling you to do the same but find a way to get yourself out of that state because if you want your diamond to come out - you need to put yourself into the zone of pressure and heat! Would you agree? Bring a pen and paper, make a list of all the ways you can follow to get yourself out of your comfort zone - if you have right set of people who wants you to grow further in life - share it with them, it might help! 2. Code of HonorImagine if you lived in a country where there was no government, that means no rules! Right? Would the country ever be able to stay peaceful? No, right? Why? Because there is no one to hold them accountable for their actions, no one is there to reward them or punish them based on their karma in society. would you agree? If we continue the same story of why some processes (activities) help us to overcome something which we have been struggling since 10 years or even more than that - at the state of pressure - when the person is in that heat moment (hot seat of his or her life) - there are many reactions that can be the outcome - 1. The person might quit or give up 2. He/She can get on self medication - giving harsh punishment to self 3. He/She might get abusive to self and with others At these point of time, why majority of people are able to overcome such reactions? Because of something called - Code of Honor! Even when people go through the deadliest moments of their lives - why don't they quit - because of code of honor! Each one follows rules in life and these are self made because I always say that in life, whatever you do - it's your choice as if you are not changing something, you are choosing to stay there! What's the need for me to show up every single day? Because I have a rule in my life which is SHOW UP NO MATTER WHAT! Remember in your life, you are the government - you can make the rules, break the rules and change the rules as per your wish. Take another homework today and make a RULE BOOK for yourself which will always help you to stay grounded and do things according to your value system :) To help you with making them, here are some of my code of honors :- 1. Protect me from myself 2. We start together, we finish together 3. Show up no matter what 4. Say what you mean and mean what you say 5. One step at a time 6. Finish what you start 7. Value Love 8. Add value first 9. No excuses 10. Wait is worth it I hope through these 10 rules, you have got an idea of how to prepare yours! 3. What Matters Is The ContextMany of us feels that what we teach (content) matters, but there is something called "Context" which matters the most and that is simply the way you teach! Would you agree? And, also the way you show up. You need to set the room in right context - preparing their foundation! Follow the system and everything works then :0 Some people because their focus is too much on the content - they are not able to maintain the energy of the room which matters the most, right? If you really want to transform a person completely - the key lies in changing the context, surrounding him or her with the right set of people who won't judge rather love the person that means not the body but the soul! 4. Salesmanship begins with a NO!Would you agree - selling is not easy? But to whom is it not easy? To you or to others? The answer is not to others - the toughest person to sell to is me to me!
I have had so many webinars where no one bought my offer, but you know what? I never stopped, I kept going - why? Because I was selling me to me the idea of "Gargi, keep going! Gargi, you can do this, don't stop!" Your salesmanship has nothing to do with the product, it has nothing to do with the customer - it has to do with the line called ONE MORE SHOT! which means Let Me Try Again! I won't give up :) New perspective, eye opening - was it for you? I hope this blog helped you :) I Just didn't want to keep these lessons with me - I wanted to share it with you! Do comment down below what was your aha moment? Would love to hear :) Do you know the two dangerous words in the whole world? According to me, they are "I CAN'T"! Most of us have this preconditioned belief in our minds that no matter what, I just can't do this! But you know what, when we use such language, the vibe that we let out in the universe is that "Please send me the negative energies in life so it can be proved that no matter what, I can't"! I feel the first step to believe in yourself is to be conscious about the language or the words you say to yourself - self talk! If every single day, I am saying to myself - "I am a failure, I am a lose, no matter how much hard work I put in, I can never reach to mass amount of people and can't transform or change their lives, my age is a limit for me and words like these", would you agree I will never be able to achieve anything in my life? Same follows to you - for the world to believe in you - you need to believe in yourself :) and when you do, that makes all the difference! Benefits of Believing In YourselfLet's explore some of the pointers which can help you to believe in you. 1. Self Confidence Is The KeyWhen you believe in yourself, would you agree that you will automatically enhance and improve your confidence and courage level? You know, the person who I have become today is because I kept on believing in myself even when the days were bad, even when I was criticized, even when I was rejected! I have so many instances in my life that I can narrate to you one of them being - when I was on the verge of giving myself - through suicide - I couldn't put the knife in my stomach because there was a voice which kept on saying to me - "Gargi, you can do this! This time shall too pass, don't quit, don't give up, you are not weak, let the world know that you have taken a new birth and you are here to help more and more people who are struggling with the same issues like depression, anxiety, loss of a loved one, and other mental health issues!" That was the day when I took a new birth again - that was the day when I started taking charge of my life and never again blamed, complained or made excuses for what I was going through in my life! I had so many webinars where I was rejected, no one joined my program - but you know what? I kept showing up because I truly believe in my heart that if you do something from your whole heart and your intention is a good one without any selfishness - you will achieve what you want but you need to wait for it and when you will receive it in abundance - you will realize that the wait was worth it! The first time I recorded a video - I received a negative comment from a stranger telling me "No one wants to listen to you little motivational speaker, you go, drink milk and sleep" - Literally those were the words of that person - don't you think my whole confidence and courage got shattered that day? But do you think did I stop making videos? Absolutely not because I was prepared for such criticism beforehand! When I was on a 3 months challenge which my mentor gave me - you know what the day before the final day - my website crashed on which I uploaded so many blogs, I wrote my whole journey with posters and everything but at night - I lost it! But did I give up? No! I woke up early in the morning the next day around 4 am and kept on working till 12 pm and made a new website! That was the commitment that I had and yes, I finally became "FREEDOM FINISHER" and received the award too :) The only point of me sharing my life experiences with you is that you are not alone! Everyone goes through those feelings of separation, loneliness, bad days, isolation, depression, etc. but in these times - all you need to do is believe in yourself! Would you do now? If I can do this being a 16 year old girl - you can do it too! Encourages You To Keep Trying!Even when you do run into challenges and setbacks when you have a high level of self-belief you’re able to rebound faster and figure out a way to resolve the situation successfully so you can get back on track toward all the amazing things you want to accomplish in your life. You will also find it easier to enlist people to your cause and get the support you need to overcome any obstacle – because the people who can help you will see how deeply you believe in yourself and trust that their efforts to assist you won’t be wasted. How To Believe In Yourself? - 4 Step Formula1. Stop Comparing Yourself With OthersUntil and unless you won't stop comparing yourself with others, you will never be happy about the progress that you are making. I will give you two new perspectives today to help you deal with this comparison - 1. Know that both of you are on your different chapters. You can't compare your first step with someone else's 21st step! That's the thing you need to remember. When you compare yourself with others - do you know what exactly are you doing? You are hurting yourself and the more hurt you feel inside, even when you are doing so well - you will never be happy! 2. Whenever you see someone who is climbing up the ladder of success, salute them. Do you know why? Because imagine the amount of time, hard work, energy and efforts that they put every day to reach such level - see them as your role models, send them love and blessings - they will inspire you to do better and to do more of course! We will always notice something the other person has that we don’t have and feel like our life is somehow “lesser than” as a result of not possessing that thing. But the truth is, when you compare yourself to others, you don’t see their whole truth! They may be struggling in ways you can’t see or imagine. And even if they are thriving, that doesn’t mean that you can’t. Happiness isn’t a zero-sum game. The happier and more successful you are, the happier and more successful ALL of us are. 2. Trust - It's Possible!One of the things that I believe in is SELF REFLECTION! It's writing down every single day or every week about your achievements, what are the things you need to work on, what are the things that worked or didn't work, what are your new plans, new ideas, action plan, etc. One of the activities that we do inside my community of enlightened warriors hub is that at the last day of every month - we do a guided meditation for self reflection and write down the focus goals for the new month. After you do this self reflection, you will get to know about what works and what doesn't! When you make new plans, believe in them! When you make new goals, believe that you can accomplish them. Most of us what we do is we give ourselves deadlines that by this date/day/month - "I will accomplish this" and when we aren't able to - what happens? We feel that we can't and thus we leave that goal! Would you agree but you know what? If you don't achieve something in the time you have given to yourself, remember that when you achieve it in God's way - it will be come along with various other gifts/bonuses! So when I have such days when my deadline passes and I am not able to achieve the goal, I never lose hope, I keep going the way I do and I just pray in my mind that "God, please make the wait worth it!" 3. Act As If You Have Already Accomplished What You Desire ForThis is called Embodiment. From today onwards, start living your life as if you have already accomplished and achieved what you wanted - and see where your confidence, clarity, vision, mission goes! Ask yourself: If you had already achieved your dream, what kind of person would you be? Who would you have as friends? What type of clothes would you be wearing? How would you act? How would you treat others? Would you tithe a portion of your income to your church or favorite charities! Whatever actions you identify, start taking them now. By acting “as if,” you’ll become someone who is capable of creating the success you want – and this will trigger your subconscious mind to find creative ways to achieve your goals. You will start noticing anything that will help you succeed. Best of all, you’ll start acting on these opportunities, because you will have the confidence that your efforts will yield great results! 4. Take ActionWithout action, nothing will happen as it's the bridge that you need to cross between your goals and your dreams! Most of the people they get lost in the loop of learning but when it comes to implementation - they aren't sure how to go about it? Here are the steps to take action :- 1. Be clear and specific about the goal you want to achieve 2, Give yourself a deadline 3. Give yourself a strong why so when the days get hard - you are able to keep your spirit high 4. After you are done with these three steps, chunk down your goal into daily, weekly and monthly milestones 5. When you achieve the milestones, celebrate before you move on to the next milestone! ConclusionI hope this blog inspired you to believe in yourself.
The day you start believing in yourself, you will get to know the real feeling of how a bird feels when it has wings to fly! The day you will start taking action and become proud of the person you are - you will feel so blessed and you will never be afraid to take the flight again! Share your thoughts in the comments below how did you feel after reading this blog? 12/21/2022 1 Comment Three Powerful Lessons I Learnt Recently Which Can Help You Reflect, and Reboot Your Personal Life!Hey there! I hope you are doing well. It's been a long time since I connected with you through a blog, so I decided to push myself and take action. But, before I begin - I want to ask you - How excited are you for 2023? as it's around the corner and before, we wrap up this beautiful year, I would like to share the three powerful lessons I learned recently from my life, specially in the personal space. While many of you feel "Gargi is doing such a great job, she is the powerhouse of positivity, she is so consistent in her work", yes - it is the truth but you know, I recently learnt the difference between personal and professional life. If someone is doing awesome in their professional area, that doesn't mean they are keeping well in their personal lives. Would you agree? 1. It's okay to feel overwhelmed even when you have the clarity of your "destiny"For those of you who feel "I don't have clarity" and you keep on yelling at yourself and blame others for whatever situations you are in, you feel "how should I start?", let me tell you the people who have immense amount of clarity- they too go through this phase when too many things are on their plate and they are not able to handle it. I will tell you - recently, I am actually doing a full "REBOOT' and "REVAMP" of the person I have become and what all I have done and launched in order to transform more lives and reach to more people, educate, and empower them so they can start to live their best lives. I tried to introduce so many things at once, and that now - I started to feel overwhelmed, I started to feel "What is going on in my life?" but the one solution I found out was - "WHEN IT BECOMES HARD TO MANAGE, SPEND SOME TIME IN SOLITUDE TO KNOW YOURSELF, MAKE A PLAN AND WHEN YOU FEEL NOW YOU CAN - GO AHEAD WITH THE EXECUTION!". You won't believe I had so many plans - but inside I was feeling stressed out, burnt out but once I implemented this strategy - I got to know what are the real "game changers" for me now! It's all about exploring different methods till you get the right one that works! So if you are someone who is feeling the same in your life, let me tell you sweetheart - you are not alone and you can never be! It's a phase and this shall too pass! I am sharing my personal experiences with you so you know that not everyone at all the time can stay motivated - but the ability to push yourself even when the times are hard -is the best thing you can ever do! Even today, I was not feeling too well and I have been struggling with these issues since last 2 months, but could you make out? no, right? It's okay, just push yourself and focus on the things which matter to you the most. 2. Health Is WealthDo you agree that health is wealth? Without you being fit and fine, you cannot enjoy your life. Without you being fit and fine, you cannot enjoy your work even if you love it like anything. From past few weeks - I had been facing the issues of "stress" a lot and I just wanted to give up but do you think "I DID?" No, I didn't! Do you know why because that is the power of having a strong why. What I learnt was that we need to pay attention to our health also if we are progressing in each area of our lives. What one activity do you plan to start from today which is going to help you fill your cup? As I truly believe this - when your cup is filled with happiness. everything around you seems awesome and you never carry the luggage of life, but when your cup is filled with negativity and sadness, you attract the same vibe from the universe! Pay attention to your health - mentally, physically. and emotionally as it's important. Take those small steps in order to take the big ones :) 3. The Journey To The Top Is Always Going To Be Alone!With all these personal struggles, lately I had been feeling lonely and alone, and whenever I used to sit alone - I would start feeling "Why life is so dark?" and do you know why these things happen? When we become too extroverted, and we don't steal time from others to feed ourselves with our own love and thus since many days, I am keeping most of the time to spend in solitude so I can fill the self love gap which had been going on. Due to all of these personal problems, I was on the verge of giving up - but could you make out? Absolutely not! Because, that is how I try to keep a balance. Remember each one of us are climbing up a ladder or a mountain and this journey is going to be hard. We are either tired of feeling too much or feeling nothing. If you are someone who could resonate with all these points, I want you to know "THIS SHALL TOO PASS", life is all about losing and finding yourself again and again, so don't worry if sometimes you get off the track!
I feel its better to get off the track sometimes so we can learn some of the greatest lessons and implement them, and come back with a new spirit from within! What do you say? Let me know your thoughts below in the comments :) Thank you so much for being who you are! You inspire me :) Gargi Arya India's Youngest Life Coach & Trainer 6/8/2022 2 Comments What You Seek For Lies Within You, Stop, Take A Pause And Tap Into Your True Power!Are you always seeking for the answers outside? Do you feel you are completely responsible for your life? Today, I want to remind you of the base principle of your life which forms the foundation that is nothing but taking 100% responsibility of your life! But, this time with a short and a wonderful story. Do you like stories? If yes, then grab a cup of tea of coffee whatever you like and let's dive in deep.
There is a wonderful story about a man who is out walking one night and comes upon another man down on his knees looking for something under a street lamp. The passerby inquires as to what the other man is looking for something under a street lamp. He answers that he is looking for his lost key. The passerby offers to help and get down on his knees and helps him search for the key. After an hour of fruitless searching, he says - "We have looked it everywhere for it and we have not found it. Are you sure that you lost it here?" The other man replies "No, I lost it in my house, but there is more light out here under the street lamp!!" What did you learn? It holds a very important lesson for each one of us and the lesson is stop looking for the answers to why you have not created the life and results you want for it is you who creates the quality of the life you lead and the results you produce. You, yes you! no one else is responsible for what you do and how you behave. Once you realize the fact that you have created the current conditions, then it's easy for you to un-create and re-create them at your own will! As when you get the awareness of something, that moment is the last for you to look back because from that moment, you start to curate your own path :) You must be wondering that "Gargi talks about this topic very often!" and that's the truth, because I want you to know that even if you know this principle, you still blame, complain and make excuses. Remember you are the cause of all your experiences, if you keep on doing what you have always done - you will keep on getting what you have always got, and this is nothing but just another term for insanity. Everything that you experience today is the result of the choices that you have made in your past, don't feel guilty about it. Do you know why? Because the person you are today would not have existed on this planet if your younger self didn't take those decisions. If you knew better, you would have done better, so be proud of every action and choice you make, as life according to me is based on choices and consequences. It's all a matter of attitude and behavior towards an event, and this can be either defined by your reaction or by your response. Always note that you have control over these three things -
The next time you find yourself getting back into the same trap, here are some questions which you can ask yourself -
Once you start going deep and you commit that you will be the best version of yours in the coming years, it's guaranteed that you will make it! Either accept that you are making the choice to stay where you are, take charge of it and stop complaining or take the risk of doing something new and different to create your life exactly the way you want it! And if you don't believe me - don't argue and call this stuff "bad" or "useless". It's better to first implement for the next 30 days where you act as if you were responsible and in each circumstance, you believe that you are playing a role, and then see whether it works for you or not. Gamify your life and whenever you find something new, start to live it on a 30 day experiment to check what kind of results they bring into your life.. Stop making excuses, like "I don't have time", "My parents don't allow me", "She always behaves like this with me", etc., I know this thing for sure that those who decide they want to do something for themselves, no matter whatever the circumstances are, they stand up and make a change. And those who are too comfortable being a victim, they don't do anything to make a change! In which category do you fall - A or B? Today's blog is a short one and there's a reason for it because now I want you to realize the importance of this! It's dedicated to the souls wo are lost and are not able to overcome their challenges, I hope my words hit you hard. I love you so much and I salute you for who you are, you don't have to change other people, you just have to change yourself, if not now, then when? Do comment down below your take on it and I would be more than happy to see what's there in you and did you get any bulb on moments or not. Thank you for being the way you are, you are needed! 6/7/2022 2 Comments Five Fascinating Ways To Help Others Master The Skill Set Needed For Self-Confidence And Turn Their Ordinary Stuff Into An Extraordinary One.Do you know the ultimate purpose of life? Have you ever thought that why only you are the chosen one? Do you like people? Do you love helping them? Are you someone who wants to form a connection with them? When I say connection, I mean a deep and strong one not just for one time but for the whole lifetime! If these questions resonates with you then you are at the right place, at the right time and yes, with the right person. Congratulations on that because this is a place where I will help you to design your life with love. Today, I want to speak to you about how you can help others live a better life by helping them boost their self confidence. Don't fall into the trap of condition based love or attachment based love as that won't serve you and your partner, you know why? Because it works on "IF" statements, we are humans and it's important for us to love from a place where there is less judgement and we hold space for the other one, it's not only I for you or you for me but we both for each other. Are you getting this point? According to me - ultimate fulfillment comes from what we give and how we are adding value in other people's lives. You see success is a team sport, so we must hold each other's hands and help ourselves as God helps those who are ready to help themselves. Don't you agree with me? If there is no inner satisfaction, no inner peace, do you think you can live a better life? Absolutely not. And even if there is, it's for a temporary period of time but if you want to experience lasting fulfillment, you just need a big heart and a willingness to help those who are not able to come out and show their real faces! Let's see how we can not only uplift our own spirits, but push others at the same time so they can also live a life they can be proud of! 1. Acknowledge How They Are FeelingFeelings and Expressions of a person can tell you how they are feeling but don't judge them because of that. Ask them "What happened with you? You are looking very sad today, is there anything which is causing trouble in your life?" People generally don't expect such questions, but you know what I always say "EVIL COMES WHEN GOOD PEOPLE DO NOTHING" and here the evil for me is the resistance within which stops us and I know you are a good soul, ask them! The best way to raise someone's self confidence or self esteem is to give them a chance to share what they hide within themselves and to be able to listen to them with full consciousness and interest. In today's world. we all have so much pressure that we have missed the pleasure of being a patient and a good listener, don't you agree with me? When was the last time you allowed someone to speak without interrupting the whole topic in between? Acknowledge what they are feeling and then ask them "WHY" as it plays a vital role, if they won't spit it out - it will keep killing themselves from within, give them the opportunity to release it and attain freedom. A free soul is like a bird which can fly high with it's wings, don't you think each of us deserve that? 2. Encourage Them To Explore Their FearsHave you ever noticed that when you give someone a little push to put their fears behind. they get the courage and start doing that scary thing inspite of being afraid of it? That's the power of support, don't be with them just be behind them, that's all they need! Find out today - Who is that one person in your life who you think can make it big in life but due to their fears and unwillingness to try out something new, they lag behind and are not able to run their race? Once you have found them out, call them, appreciate them for who they are and what they do - this will help the other person feel good about themselves and the bond in which you both are tied up. After appreciating, come to the main point "What are your future plans about ____?" (The dash represents the field in which they want to succeed) Let's say, they want to become an influencer but are not doing anything because fear stops them. Once you get the answer, ask them "What are their fears? What is stopping them from achieving their dream life?" Make a list of those fears and start to find the solutions to overcome it, hold them accountable, send them reminders and see how the magic will start to happen. Here, I want to highlight "Jealousy", which is something natural which happens when we see someone close to us succeeding, right? What do you do when you feel jealous? Maybe you start to curse yourself with these statements "Why me God? I am too putting my best efforts then why is he or she succeeding faster than me? Why am I not able to gain so many of those followers? Why am I not able to become a successful doctor or an engineer?" or maybe you start to curse the opposite person by saying bad about them or criticizing them right? But can we give a new story to ourselves today? The next time you feel jealous - bless the other person in such a way that when you bless them, you are attracting 10x what they have. In this way, you will be much more aligned with who you are and God will be preparing some additional bonuses for you. Give yourself the chance to explore, because until and unless you won't go on a path you don't know anything about, how will you be able to figure out whether it's meant for you or not! 3. Review Their Past WinsWhat if I say you have won more than 100 things up until now in your life, will you believe that? Maybe, you won't right? It's because we never sit in solitude and ask introspective questions which can reveal the best in us! Today, try doing this activity and think of at least 100 things you have accomplished till now and these does not have to be the big ones, the small will too work. If you have a television in your home, it's a win, do you know why? Look around , not everyone are lucky enough to watch tv. If you have food to eat and shelter to live, that's your win. Look at the streets around your house, walk around - you will find many people lying down on the road as they don't have a home, you could be one of them! But you are not, God gave you a wonderful life, aren't you lucky? Sometimes, in our lives, when we are trying to be an angel in someone's darkness, the other person is not able to gain confidence by our daily pushes and reminders because they don't believe in their own capability and our job is to help them ignite the spark within them, how do we do that? By reminding them of all the things they have achieved in their past, how were they able to do it then? Why are they not able to do it now? When you will ask these questions, believe me, the wisdom that will flow in the other person would be unbelievable, they won't even believe by looking at their answers. 4. Set Goals With Them That Require Them To GrowWhile setting goals, sit with them and ask them introspective questions, let them go deep! Goal setting is a very crucial part of life because it needs you to stretch yourself a little more every day till the time you don't become like an elastic rubber and feel comfortable even while taking the uncomfortable steps. This exercise is not just for them, work as a team and both of you do the work! While going through this exercise, remind them of the 3 C's - Courage, Clarity and Consistency. Let me explain this to you - 1. Courage - Once both of you have written your goals, write down 1 or 2 action steps which will help you both to come outside your comfort zones and not let your resistance control you! Let's say if you have a goal to become a makeup artist, what can be the action steps under this goal? 1. Opening up a social media account, let's say Instagram and posting every single day to build consistency and reach 2. Learning about make up by taking a course or watching YouTube videos to gain knowledge about the subject 3. Practicing what you have learnt either on yourself or on some other friend of yours and like that, you can write many more. But, courage means showing up every single day no matter what. 2. Clarity - Without clarity, you cannot reach where you want to go, right? While setting goals, set the smart ones.
In order to stay consistent - you must follow THE RULE OF FIVE. Every day, chunk down your big goal into a to do list and then out of that to do list, pick 5 things you can do to move closer towards where you want to be! 5. Encourage Them To Be LLL - Life Long Learner!One of the rules that I follow is that I learn something new every day from my mentors - either through course or their YouTube videos. Since the day, I have surrendered myself to be a student in the school of life, my life has started to blossom! Life Long Learning is a vital part of your life and if you are not learning, you are simply dying. Don't just look for knowledge everywhere, look for transformation because that is what will make a change in you. Follow the Golden Rule of life - Learn, Practice and Teach. Don't just believe what I say, first implement and then you believe if it works! ConclusionRemember when you help others, you not only help them to design their lives , but you also help yourself design your life with love because when someone opens up with you and you give them the 3 C's of life - you learn and evolve into the best version of yours :)
Are you willing to help others? today, find that person and I wish you all the very best, create wonders in not only their life but in also yours! Comment down below your take on it. I love you so much! 6/6/2022 1 Comment Three Proven Ways To Apply The Principles Of Tongue Fu In Your Life And Transform Each Conflict Into A Cooperation!Do you have some toxic people around you? Do you want to know how to respond to them with patience and not react upon them with anger and frustration which will ultimately worsen the whole situation? Do you want to put the water on the fire rather than fueling it more and more? If these questions resonate with you, then first of all a warm welcome to the place where I will help you to design your life with love. You are at the right place, at the right time and yes, with the right person. Let's talk about a crucial part of our lives today that no one teaches us in school and college and it's about dealing with the difficult people. Often in our lives, we come across such types of people who try to pull our leg downwards or they try to control us in some way, they make us feel we are bad and thus, who turns out to be the victim? I hope you got the answer, it's you! We often treat them as devils and because of our own limiting beliefs - what happens? We tend to lose our inner peace and try to fight with them again and again, but can I tell you a little secret? If you will keep your leg into the wet mud or some swampy area, you will only have to face the after effects of it. Am I right? Similarly, if you know how to handle the difficult conversations with the difficult people, don't you think the unnecessary trauma that you carry will some what get rid and you will get free? What generally happens when we fight with them? The conversation turns into a conflict and thus it ends the whole beauty of even the closest relationships and no one actually benefits with them. Please remember these people are not mad, they are not insane or psyche, they just need some love and care from us because the whole world is already judging them and pointing fingers on them for what they do and who they are - and at this point of time, all they need is a safe space where they are not judged, believe me LOVE CAN TRANSFORM ANYONE'S LIFE. That's why I request you to spend some time with me so I can take you on a beautiful journey and answering the "HOW" part of this whole game. Grab a cup of tea or coffee whatever you like :), let's make it a fun learning! What Is Tongue Fu?Have you ever heard of this word called Tongue Fu? Well, if you have - then superb and if you are someone who does not know about this concept, let me explain. Before moving on to the top 3 tips for handling these difficult conversations - it's important for you to get hold of this topic. Tongue Fu is a series of martial arts for the mind and the mouth - techniques which are developed by Sam Horn for what to say when you don't know what to say. Sounds Interesting? Some of the practices that I follow and has impacted me and my bonds in certain ways, I will be sharing them down with you so you can get how this whole thing works. Always remember that "MAN WAS DESIGNED TO DESIGN HIS LIFE" and if you are not doing that, you are not following the rules my sweetheart. According to me, the quality of your life is decided by the quality of your relationships and it's important for us to learn how we can turn our conflicts into the co-operations. Let's dive in deep. 1. When People Complain, Don't Explain. Instead Take AAA TrainOften when something goes wrong in our relationships, the basic tendency is that we either ask them for explanation or we tend to give our own excuses for why that happened. But is it okay if from today we break this old pattern and follow a new one by giving ourselves a different approach? If for example - your best friend is angry with you for some reason, let's say "You said something bad about him/her to your other friend and that person has informed this to your best buddy." Here, your instant reaction will be either guilt or shame, and you may also try to explain why you said so. Right? But from now onwards, please don't explain because when you do, the other person is not in a state of listening because they are already angry and remember beneath every layer of anger, there's a hurt! And our job is to heal it not cause more harm to it, agree? That's why from next time, try if you can first agree with them, accept it, then apologize. At that point of time - the other person just needs some kind of satisfaction that yes, you have said sorry and that's all they need. Often, we say "There is no thank you or sorry in friendships or closest relationships" but my approach here is quite different. I say no matter whether they are close or far from my heart, you know why? Because we all need that! Suppose if you are working all day long and no one sees how much effort you are putting, what will happen? You will start feeling like a victim, and you will find everything boring and when the excitement leaves us, we become like a living hell. "I am sorry", "I love you", "I care for you", "Thank you", etc., these are all magical words which can uplift and bring back the spark in your bonds once again. After following the 2 A's, then you act - because all of this puts you in a state of response rather than reaction. Let's say - you didn't say anything about your friend then instead of jumping on to the reaction - follow the 3 A's, now I know you must be thinking "Gargi, are you mad? Why will I apologize if I have not said that?" I agree, but in order to come to a stable situation where both of you are calm and look for a solution, don't you think it would be beneficial? Don't let your EGO come in the way, where will you take all of this attitude? Not going to serve any area of your life, I have been there and that's why it's coming from a place of authenticity. 2. Don't Defend Or Deny Untrue AccusationsHas someone ever said the truth and you got hurt by it and started to defend yourself instead of asking them the follow up questions which could have saved you from falling into the trap? It has happened with me many times but I have got to know how to deal with it. Honestly speaking, I am a very emotional person and most of the times, I keep most of the things inside me, so many times people have asked me to open up but I only do with few people and that's why I have been labelled by many names like "I am so emotional, or introvert and etc. Anytime, someone used to say me like this, I used to feel bad and I used to defend myself. But when I got to know about this principle, it took some time for me to dissolve the whole concept in my cells but finally I did. Let's say if someone says you " You are such an idiot, you always ask so many questions. You stupid, you are seriously good for nothing. You will never be able to succeed in your life!!", how will you act? You will get furious and immediately start to deny that fact and fight against it. Right? But from today, can we change this approach together? What if we say to the next person "I see, but can you please tell what made you think like that or what do you mean?", "Is there something wrong I did to you?" and then let them explain what they meant. Most of the problems are not created by what other people say, it's just the game of tonality and if instead of reacting, we can understand that it's a human nature - it will serve us for long. Once they have told you why they have been thinking about you that way - say "thank you" and then you act accordingly. You must be thinking "Why only I have to understand every time?", because you my friend are a part of 1% of this world who is keen to work on themselves and design their lives with love, not everyone has the courage to even read a blog or watch a motivational video every day. You are an evolved soul than them and you can understand these things much better. Don't you agree with me? Instead of bringing the ego in between, tell this new story to yourself and then see what happens! Remember when your frequency towards the other person changes, their frequency changes too because of the sudden change you bring in! 3. Halt What's Happening With A Hand GestureAlways remember that our task is not to fix the blame for the past, it's to fix the course for the future. Whenever you find someone talking and talking and not giving you the chance to explain, remember to stop them by showing your hand, then continue what you have to speak. Even if they stop you in between, show them a T with your hands, and then tell them that it means TIME OUT! Remember these gestures won't make you bad or rude, a relationship is made by two people and both have the equal right to speak. That's why I always say - Train them, don't shame them. CONCLUSIONWell, it's the end, I hope by now you must have understood that you being the evolved soul has enough courage to not only change your frequency level but also the people who seem difficult but from within are just broken and need some love.
Start to see this world with the eyes of care and respect because this is what we need the most. Comment down below "Which one tip are you willing to apply for the next one week and how did this blog impact you?" Would love to hear. |
AuthorHello, I am Gargi Arya, the motivational speaker of ADJOA HTC and author of the book 'The Lion Hearted Soul'. I am 14 years old. I study in 10th grade in Ryan International School, Ghaziabad. To me, writing is just my thoughts flowing from my mind to the tips of my fingers and painting the pages of my precious diary. This website is all about you and for you. Remember treasure lies in solving mysteries. Let the power of self love reinvent yourself to create your dream life ! |