THE ULTIMATE
6/7/2022 2 Comments Five Fascinating Ways To Help Others Master The Skill Set Needed For Self-Confidence And Turn Their Ordinary Stuff Into An Extraordinary One.Do you know the ultimate purpose of life? Have you ever thought that why only you are the chosen one? Do you like people? Do you love helping them? Are you someone who wants to form a connection with them? When I say connection, I mean a deep and strong one not just for one time but for the whole lifetime! If these questions resonates with you then you are at the right place, at the right time and yes, with the right person. Congratulations on that because this is a place where I will help you to design your life with love. Today, I want to speak to you about how you can help others live a better life by helping them boost their self confidence. Don't fall into the trap of condition based love or attachment based love as that won't serve you and your partner, you know why? Because it works on "IF" statements, we are humans and it's important for us to love from a place where there is less judgement and we hold space for the other one, it's not only I for you or you for me but we both for each other. Are you getting this point? According to me - ultimate fulfillment comes from what we give and how we are adding value in other people's lives. You see success is a team sport, so we must hold each other's hands and help ourselves as God helps those who are ready to help themselves. Don't you agree with me? If there is no inner satisfaction, no inner peace, do you think you can live a better life? Absolutely not. And even if there is, it's for a temporary period of time but if you want to experience lasting fulfillment, you just need a big heart and a willingness to help those who are not able to come out and show their real faces! Let's see how we can not only uplift our own spirits, but push others at the same time so they can also live a life they can be proud of! 1. Acknowledge How They Are FeelingFeelings and Expressions of a person can tell you how they are feeling but don't judge them because of that. Ask them "What happened with you? You are looking very sad today, is there anything which is causing trouble in your life?" People generally don't expect such questions, but you know what I always say "EVIL COMES WHEN GOOD PEOPLE DO NOTHING" and here the evil for me is the resistance within which stops us and I know you are a good soul, ask them! The best way to raise someone's self confidence or self esteem is to give them a chance to share what they hide within themselves and to be able to listen to them with full consciousness and interest. In today's world. we all have so much pressure that we have missed the pleasure of being a patient and a good listener, don't you agree with me? When was the last time you allowed someone to speak without interrupting the whole topic in between? Acknowledge what they are feeling and then ask them "WHY" as it plays a vital role, if they won't spit it out - it will keep killing themselves from within, give them the opportunity to release it and attain freedom. A free soul is like a bird which can fly high with it's wings, don't you think each of us deserve that? 2. Encourage Them To Explore Their FearsHave you ever noticed that when you give someone a little push to put their fears behind. they get the courage and start doing that scary thing inspite of being afraid of it? That's the power of support, don't be with them just be behind them, that's all they need! Find out today - Who is that one person in your life who you think can make it big in life but due to their fears and unwillingness to try out something new, they lag behind and are not able to run their race? Once you have found them out, call them, appreciate them for who they are and what they do - this will help the other person feel good about themselves and the bond in which you both are tied up. After appreciating, come to the main point "What are your future plans about ____?" (The dash represents the field in which they want to succeed) Let's say, they want to become an influencer but are not doing anything because fear stops them. Once you get the answer, ask them "What are their fears? What is stopping them from achieving their dream life?" Make a list of those fears and start to find the solutions to overcome it, hold them accountable, send them reminders and see how the magic will start to happen. Here, I want to highlight "Jealousy", which is something natural which happens when we see someone close to us succeeding, right? What do you do when you feel jealous? Maybe you start to curse yourself with these statements "Why me God? I am too putting my best efforts then why is he or she succeeding faster than me? Why am I not able to gain so many of those followers? Why am I not able to become a successful doctor or an engineer?" or maybe you start to curse the opposite person by saying bad about them or criticizing them right? But can we give a new story to ourselves today? The next time you feel jealous - bless the other person in such a way that when you bless them, you are attracting 10x what they have. In this way, you will be much more aligned with who you are and God will be preparing some additional bonuses for you. Give yourself the chance to explore, because until and unless you won't go on a path you don't know anything about, how will you be able to figure out whether it's meant for you or not! 3. Review Their Past WinsWhat if I say you have won more than 100 things up until now in your life, will you believe that? Maybe, you won't right? It's because we never sit in solitude and ask introspective questions which can reveal the best in us! Today, try doing this activity and think of at least 100 things you have accomplished till now and these does not have to be the big ones, the small will too work. If you have a television in your home, it's a win, do you know why? Look around , not everyone are lucky enough to watch tv. If you have food to eat and shelter to live, that's your win. Look at the streets around your house, walk around - you will find many people lying down on the road as they don't have a home, you could be one of them! But you are not, God gave you a wonderful life, aren't you lucky? Sometimes, in our lives, when we are trying to be an angel in someone's darkness, the other person is not able to gain confidence by our daily pushes and reminders because they don't believe in their own capability and our job is to help them ignite the spark within them, how do we do that? By reminding them of all the things they have achieved in their past, how were they able to do it then? Why are they not able to do it now? When you will ask these questions, believe me, the wisdom that will flow in the other person would be unbelievable, they won't even believe by looking at their answers. 4. Set Goals With Them That Require Them To GrowWhile setting goals, sit with them and ask them introspective questions, let them go deep! Goal setting is a very crucial part of life because it needs you to stretch yourself a little more every day till the time you don't become like an elastic rubber and feel comfortable even while taking the uncomfortable steps. This exercise is not just for them, work as a team and both of you do the work! While going through this exercise, remind them of the 3 C's - Courage, Clarity and Consistency. Let me explain this to you - 1. Courage - Once both of you have written your goals, write down 1 or 2 action steps which will help you both to come outside your comfort zones and not let your resistance control you! Let's say if you have a goal to become a makeup artist, what can be the action steps under this goal? 1. Opening up a social media account, let's say Instagram and posting every single day to build consistency and reach 2. Learning about make up by taking a course or watching YouTube videos to gain knowledge about the subject 3. Practicing what you have learnt either on yourself or on some other friend of yours and like that, you can write many more. But, courage means showing up every single day no matter what. 2. Clarity - Without clarity, you cannot reach where you want to go, right? While setting goals, set the smart ones.
In order to stay consistent - you must follow THE RULE OF FIVE. Every day, chunk down your big goal into a to do list and then out of that to do list, pick 5 things you can do to move closer towards where you want to be! 5. Encourage Them To Be LLL - Life Long Learner!One of the rules that I follow is that I learn something new every day from my mentors - either through course or their YouTube videos. Since the day, I have surrendered myself to be a student in the school of life, my life has started to blossom! Life Long Learning is a vital part of your life and if you are not learning, you are simply dying. Don't just look for knowledge everywhere, look for transformation because that is what will make a change in you. Follow the Golden Rule of life - Learn, Practice and Teach. Don't just believe what I say, first implement and then you believe if it works! ConclusionRemember when you help others, you not only help them to design their lives , but you also help yourself design your life with love because when someone opens up with you and you give them the 3 C's of life - you learn and evolve into the best version of yours :)
Are you willing to help others? today, find that person and I wish you all the very best, create wonders in not only their life but in also yours! Comment down below your take on it. I love you so much!
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Shweta Garg
6/7/2022 06:04:41 am
Well done Gargi! Quite interesting and practical. Completely worth reading !!
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Shamanth K S
6/7/2022 06:37:53 am
Learn Apply Share thank you for this and it will help lots of people.
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AuthorHello, I am Gargi Arya, the motivational speaker of ADJOA HTC and author of the book 'The Lion Hearted Soul'. I am 14 years old. I study in 10th grade in Ryan International School, Ghaziabad. To me, writing is just my thoughts flowing from my mind to the tips of my fingers and painting the pages of my precious diary. This website is all about you and for you. Remember treasure lies in solving mysteries. Let the power of self love reinvent yourself to create your dream life ! |