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Today, I am going a bit off track from the topics I usually speak about and this is going to be a part of my self reflection journey. Do you know why I am so excited to tell about my 5 lessons? Because I know, they will surely benefit you and your life. Always remember that age can never be your barrier, because it's just a number, nothing more than that, external events can never extinguish the fire which burns every day within your soul! Grab a cup of coffee or tea whatever you like, take notes if you wish to and allow me to take you on a beautiful journey called "LIFE". 1. Create Your Future Through Your Future, Not By Your Past.This is one of the most vital lessons I have ever got to learn from my experiences up until now. The past is past, all you can do is focus on your present to create your future. During Covid Pandemic, when I lost someone I loved, not by death - the family relations broke down and I was so attached with them, that when that change got happened - I was deeply impacted and completely shattered from within. From then on, I kept carrying the weight on my shoulders and pain in my chest and I always believed "I can't live anymore, I am broken". The fight was so tough, because I never told anyone what I was going through - neither I had the courage to tell the truth nor I trusted anyone at that point of time. But, one day - because of all that depression and negativity trap, I locked myself in the bathroom and I cried for hours, as the pain in my chest was not allowing me to breathe, even on that day - I attempted to kill myself but I couldn't as I was not so selfish enough to leave my parents alone who had done so much for me, and that was the last day for me to look back as that time - when I was holding the knife in my hand and remained stuck for some time - I got to know the real purpose of my life - that was "To help and coach other people so they can design their lives with love". This is for the first time, when I am vulnerably sharing this emotional part of my story which no one knows, and I hope that it is impacting you at a much deeper level. The lesson I got to learn that day was "My past does not equal my future", and I can still accept this harsh reality and move on, but this time being selfish to work on myself and then once I fill my own cup - I can easily remain selfless for the rest of my life where the ultimate fulfillment lies. At that point, I had two choices - Either I could die or stand up for myself. And when I look back today, I am happy that I took the decision to remain silent and speak less for a while, which helped me to understand what I wanted from myself? If you are someone who feels controlled, who feels you have lost your power - I just want to tell you my sweetheart I was there two years back, but I still chose to came out of all that dirt, It was not easy - but it's said that "Where there is a will, there is always a way". If I can do it, then you can do it too. 2. You cannot do same things and expect the different results.Do you want to know what insanity means? It is nothing but when someone does the same things again and again, and always expects a different outcome from each one of them. Who do you think are you? Are you a genius or are you insane? The only difference between a genius and an insane person is their willingness to show up no matter what happens. The ability to take risks and perform at their best even when the times are tough,. You know, when I started on this journey - I only posted poems with a nice background on my WhatsApp Status, nothing else. And I always used to wonder - Why not everyone notices the hard work I put in every single day in writing these? I was happy that I am succeeding but at the same time - I didn't know how to get to more and more people to spread my message? I know you must be thinking that why didn't I use social media? Because I never wanted to, I always felt it as a distraction because I heard it from my friends and elders that these things are bad. So, my mind formed this limiting belief and for around 5-6 months, I was sitting in my own den. But, then an opportunity came to me - I participated in super speaker contest of Success Gyan and it was then I decided to actually come and form my online existence in the online world, but still I was just posting those poems I used to write. Many friends suggested me that why don't you put your photos along with the poem? How will someone get to know that you are that young girl who is trying to make a difference? Why don't you record videos? But, I was scared of what will other people think about me and so I decided to let my resistance stop me, and believe me I waited for 1 year to record videos and put my photos! And when I started recording videos, used the correct hashtags so I can get discovered on my Instagram and Facebook handles - I started to understand that it was important for me to come outside my comfort zone and do all of these things which used to put fear and resistance in front of me. With this experience of mine - I got to know that you cannot do same things and expect the different results to come. If you are someone who is in the same trap, I urge you to get out of it, find ways to take small risks every day and then see how your life will start to blossom! 3. T0 Have More Than You Got, You Have Got To Become More Than You Are!Being an introvert, it's extremely hard to push yourself out of your comfort zone and meet and greet new people. Earlier, I used to cancel every meet up of mine at the very last moment but then I started to realize that this is not what a good coach does. This world needs more love and kindness, and that means - I need to be more loving, caring, and kind towards the person who is coming to me and not cancel meetings. As of today, I can feel the shift within me and I give equal importance to the person I am talking to. It takes a lot of time, energy and effort for me to record and edit my videos, to write blogs and articles, to record a podcast but I can tell you the kind of smile I have on my face once I have completed it is so fulfilling and more than satisfactory. One of the rules that I follow in my life is - I won't go to bed until and unless I have not done something for the people who support and trust in me or in other words if I have not added value in someone's life, i won't sleep! I can tell you - When people get to know about me, they give so many compliments and appreciation but at the same time - I am also criticized by some, but my mentor Blair Singer said to me once "Gargi, if you keep doing what you do inspite of all the judgements and criticisms that people throw on you and you just use them as a fuel to push you everyday and do something extraordinary, believe me you will get to where you want to be." When I look back, I can make a vast difference between who I was and who I am today. Every single day, I stretch myself out of my comfort zone and beat my resistance. So if you are someone who thinks you lack courage, look for evidence in your past that when was the first time you showed courage and how can you bring the same patterns back into your life. Waking up early, sitting for hours in front of laptop, learning from various places and mentors is not easy my sweetheart, and even if I get bored sometimes - I still do them because I know these boring things will make way for me to reach my diamond destiny! 4. Just As Sweetness Is The Nature Of Sugar, Service Is The Nature Of The Soul!Always remember that whatever you do, it must have a purpose. Find a cause and contribute towards it, no matter what your age is, no matter whether you are big or small - start making a difference because you can. A magical life is composed of inner fulfillment and professional development. That's what true success means, let me break these two words for you. According to me - Inner fulfillment comes when I make someone happy, when I add value, when I change their lives. Every morning, the kind of messages that I get to read are so touching that while reading - I get tears, and it keeps me going even if I don't feel okay sometimes from within. Professional development is all about mastering the game of money and time. Don't run after time management, manage yourself first and then see, how your time gets fixed automatically. Once the time gets fixed - you can master the money game too, but as you know - Rome was not built in one day, it took years and years of patience and persistence. Similarly, nothing can be done in overnight, trust God, believe in yourself and keep taking the baby steps to reach your final destination! In the end, the benefits should not belong to you only, but also to your family and friends, then to your community - then to your society - then to your city or town or village - then to your country and to make a long story short - to your own world! 5. Great Teachers Are Great Students!I used to be someone who never liked reading books apart from the school ones and everyone around me used to complain about this, but I never ran after knowledge and transformation. But when I was facing mental health problems like depression and anxiety - I got to know the real power of books, and since then they became my best friends :) More than being a teacher, I love being a student of my teachers and mentors. The first book which opened the world of self help for me was - Don't sweat the small stuff by Richard Carlson and this had a deep impact on me and allowed me to improve my self esteem and work on my confidence level. I want you to develop the habit of reading books because you won't even know when they will turn out to be your best buddies! The deeper you work on yourself, the deeper the impact you will be able to create in this world. I get asked a lot that how am I able to gain such kind of deep wisdom at a young age? How am I able to answer each question? It's because I study a lot - for me self education is a must apart from the formal education which is broken. ConclusionToday, as I was looking for a topic to write, it just came to me why not share the recent 5 lessons I learned, and that's why I decided to write about this topic. I hope you got to know what it takes!
Writing is my escape and I feel a heart to heart connection while writing it, I hope you felt the love and care too. Just never ever quit on yourself, don't give up. If you feel confused or stuck right now, don't say "I am confused" or "I am stuck" because when you do - The Universe acts according to your vibes. Start saying "Let me figure this out", "Let me explore", don't be scared to go on this journey, I know you can do it. Be in the game, neither be on it nor be around it. Give yourself the chance to explore, what will happen? You will get lost? You will fail? You will make mistakes? You will have a heartbreak? Remember God will never give you what you can't handle, be strong and just have faith. I can never help you if you don't want to help yourself. Before I let you go, I just want to share a heart touching story with you which will clarify the difference between internal and external motivation - There was a boy named Rahul who loved to play cricket but the only problem he faced was that his coach never allowed him to play for the finals, and Rahul always dreamt that he will win the cup for his team and will make his family proud. When one day, his team got the chance to play for the finals - he became very happy but got disappointed later because after pleading his coach, the coach didn't gave him the chance to play. He was kept as a third person that if suppose any team member got hurt, he will play in place of them. As the match continued, Rahul didn't come for the whole one week and his team was worried. When he came back, no one asked him any question, he further pleaded to his coach that can he play now? But the coach never believed in him that's why he refused this time too. But, later his team was actually losing the game so one of the team members suggested him to play, the coach agreed and at last, due to his presence - they played so well that they got the gold medal along with the trophy! Later, the coach patted his back and asked him "Why didn't he come for the whole one week?" Rahul replied "Sir, do you remember the man who used to come with me in the field to watch me play cricket?" The coach nodded, he further added "He was my father whom I lost the last week - He was actually blind but his dream was to see me at great heights as a cricketer, that's why he used to come along with me. And that's why I kept pleading you to give me a chance so I can make him happy. I know he is watching me from above and his trust in me kept me going!"" The coach was speechless! This is what I want you to know. Till the time, you won't realize, no matter how hard I try - I can never help you. We are not human beings on a spiritual journey, we are spiritual beings on a human journey. I care for you, that's all I want you to know. Do comment down below your take on it, would love to know your thoughts. I am proud of you!
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Do you feel low sometimes? Do you feel the wounds in your heart destroy you? Do you feel bad because of whatever has happened with you up until now? Today, I want to speak to you about a topic called Healing! What is healing according to you? I have learnt from one of my mentors that - Healing is actually a stage of our lives when we bring back something which is not in harmony, back into it's harmonious stage. In simple terms, it is defined as the process of becoming and feeling well again after a tragedy or an incident which had a deep impact on you. A lot of people think that for healing to take place - they will have to take some kind of medication or they will have to go to a psychologist for help not knowing that the healing which they are seeking for - resides within themselves, and they can only access that - when they dig deep into themselves and ask them why are they feeling that way. This blog is specially dedicated to the process of self healing - how to heal yourself from the low moments of your life. 1. Accept "I am Not Fine"We live in such a society where people have started criticizing those who are suffering with the emotional breakdown, even going to a therapist or a coach seems too hard, you know why? Because most of us have a mindset where we think "Only the people who are psyche go there" and that's why the importance which was earlier given to the emotions has reduced. Whenever something bad happens and you feel hurt because of that, have you ever noticed you don't allow yourself to feel that way? You are in a hurry to push those toxic emotions from your body and thus you pretend that you are okay but actually you are not. Am I right? But today, let's recondition our minds with a new belief system by saying - "I give equal importance to my emotions, I will let myself feel the way I am feeling at the current moment and will not to be in a hurry to remove them." When you accept "you are not fine", that itself is the first step towards self healing. 2. Figure Out "WHY?" After acceptance, move on to the figuring part. Why are you feeling like that? Are you upset about something? Is your busy schedule disturbing you? Are you being too lazy? Are you procrastinating in some way? Are you not following successful habits? Or why are you feeling that way? For me, sometimes through such introspective questions - I am able to figure out the reason of my sadness, but sometimes I am not able to and in that case, I try to find reasons from the external events of my life. For example, maybe I have been with someone who I don't feel aligned with and their negative energy is disturbing me now, maybe I am feeling irritated because of something in my environment and by asking such deep questions - at the end I am able to find the reason. Similarly, whenever you have feelings of negativity, regret, anger, frustration, stress, anxiety or any kind of burden on chest - just try to find the reason because once you know what is the one thing which is causing such trouble - you will be able to manage it easily! 3. Take 100% Responsibility Of Your Own HealingEvery single day - I repeat this mantra to myself that "I am responsible for my own happiness" because it reminds me of the fact that if it is to be, it is up to me. And whenever I feel hurt or sad because of something, I just ask myself "What makes me happy?" or "What can I do right now in order to feel happy?" These two questions put me in a zone of responsibility of my own life. Whenever you are trying to heal yourself, after figuring out what's the main problem - do the things which can put you out of that zone. Do things which make you happy, Today sit down and write at least 20 things which you love to do and keep that list in front of you, to remind you of the fact that having fun in life is very important. Don't wait for someone else to change in your surroundings, man was designed to design his life. Stop waiting for your prince to come on the white horse and save you from all that dirt. Take the sword, run your own race and then see who you turn out as a person! ConclusionI hope by now, you must have understood the power of healing! Remember you need to accept first because when you do, you actually remove a lot of unnecessary dirt from your own life. Don't pretend as if you are strong, or okay or fine, just allow yourself to feel that way.
I am so proud of you, I hope this blog helped you and allowed you to tap into the true power of your emotions. Start to give that side some importance because emotions can either get you in the way or get you on the way. Do you know what's the best thing about being a human? Do you know what is the real purpose of life? Do you want to build yourself? Do you want to live a life by design? Today, I want to speak to you about a very beautiful topic which I love to explore is Relationships because according to me, the best thing about being a human is our ability to form beautiful connections with other people but before it, don't you want to fill your own cup first. This blog is divided into 3 parts - Self, God and People, let me hold your hand and show you how you can start to bring back the spark within the bonds you have. But before I come, I want to share a personal experience with you. Being an introvert, I don't actually like to talk with a lot of people, because most of the times - I love the solitude time and I like being in my own den and I think that is the main reason that I never understood the power of relationships. Even when I began on this coaching journey, in the initial stages - whenever someone would come to me for a clarity call, I used to book them and then cancel at the very last minute because my mind was scared what if I am not able to impact them or what if I am not able to help them? What if I don't see a difference in their smile while I end the session? And these questions used to come every time and that's why most of my meetings used to get cancelled. But since two three weeks, I can feel a transformation within because now I have started to deal with my limiting beliefs to push myself outside my comfort arena and help people no matter whether they get the right answer or not, and thus - I have begun to understand the power of connections. Though, I am not a relationship coach, but I love to speak and learn about this topic, this is my own perspective on how you can start to bring back the spark in your bonds once again. You see, in today's world - we get so busy that unintentionally we miss out the daily treasures of life due to daily work pressure, but you know the beauty of relationships is not about the quantity of time you spend with others, but more about the quality, Believe me, just 10 minutes of talking to someone you love - either by chatting, calling or physically meeting - will energize both of you so much that your day will seem like a miracle. Let's dive deep into this - 1. Grow Your Trust In SelfImagine a situation where you and your loved ones are sitting together on a dining table and there are cups for each one of you along with a kettle full of tea. Now, suppose instead of talking and gossiping with your family - you are pouring the tea from the kettle only in your cup and the people around you are surprised because you are not caring about them - instead of having a conversation with them or rather serving them the tea - you are only caring enough to sip your own tea and as soon as it finishes, you again drink one more cup of tea. What do you think your family will call you? "SELFISH", right? Similarly, in our societal world, whenever we do something for ourselves - people start calling us selfish ignoring the massive amount of things we have done for them. Does this happen with you? Always remember that you need to keep yourself at the top of your to do list every single day and see how everything will start to make sense and thus you will no longer have to be a people pleaser. Do you know why I gave you such a situation? Because I want you to understand the fact that we are humans, apart from all the roles I play in my life - daughter, sister, friend, etc., I am a human first - and if my soul is not happy - how will I make others feel around me? Because I know this - whatever I hold inside is what I will give outside. So, if I being a soul carry bitterness and sadness within me - I will give the same to other people around me, and do I want to make my friends and family feel sad because of me? Absolutely not. So, if ever you feel that you only have to give, give and give - please remember my Rockstar - in the process of being selfish- you are also teaching others that YOU MATTER. I never used to like myself, because I never used to have a friend with whom I can share everything. I never used to like myself because every time, something would happen in my relationships and friendships and all the blame used to come on me and because of all of this - I formed my own belief that I am good for nothing. I never respected myself, every time, every hour - I used to pass negative compliments on me which would put me down. But through the painful experiences, I started to gain the wisdom that in order to have an identity of my own - first what mattered was whether I respected myself or not? From then on, I started working on myself - I started to read self development books, I enrolled myself into various courses to grow my confidence and today I can tell you - When I look back, I can see the difference between the Old Gargi and the New one, for me this itself is a massive achievement. The one lesson I want you to know is you have always choices in life - Either you can be selfish today to be selfless for the rest of your life or you can be selfless today and later when you try to be selfish - the others will point fingers on you and say mean words to you. I choose to be selfish for now and then for the rest of my life, the only thing that I will do is GIVE! The day you start to respect yourself, you will start respecting the whole world around you, That's why I urge you to fill your own cup first and when it is full - give back to the world. Don't be that empty and dirty cup, change your perspective, recondition your mind, train your beliefs and become that beautiful cup full of tea so you can pour a lot into other people's cups because that's where the ultimate fulfillment lies. 2. Grow Your Faith In GodDo you know what I do when I lose strength? I just look up at the sky and say "God, I know you are there with me, guide me because I am losing the strength to stand up. I am not saying you to remove this obstacle, please show me a way where I feel this is for me and not against me." And when I ask for the help, I do get it. If you ask me what do I do to feel connected with God, then it's nothing! I don't do any kind of puja, I rarely go to the temples and spiritual places because I know he is within me :) I truly feel connected with him through my heart and that's why I don't have any rituals to follow. I lost faith, hope and trust in God once and it took me a time to build the bond again but I can tell you - today the kind of connection I feel with divine is so strong that even if the storm comes, I remain calm. I don't lose my inner peace and even if I do, the Universe helps me to build faith. I want you to grow your faith in God and completely surrender to him. Trust the process even if you are not getting what you want right now, maybe he is preparing some additional bonuses and want to give you the complete package full of gifts. Suppose if someone does wrong with you, what will be your instant reaction? You will get angry and speak the rubbish or do the things which might hurt them and don't worry, it's a human tendency. But from today - Can I tell you to look such situations with a different eye? Instead of fighting for the right, be kind and leave the rest to God because the law of echo says "Whatever you give, comes back." When I have situations like these in my life, I just pray for the other person that "Please God, give them the wisdom and the knowledge they seek for to become a better person" and it's all sorted out then. I don't have to change myself just because someone else is doing wrong to me. Would you change yourself? Another thing is I am smart enough to hurt the opposite person, but I won't because in the process of doing so - I will lose my inner peace and I won't like myself, and for me inner peace matters more than fighting for whose right or whose wrong. God will show you the path, he is watching you from above so bless whomever you meet on your way. Find ways to connect with him - maybe through yoga, meditation or some sort of activity where you can invoke the presence of divine and form that deep connection which is much needed to build faith! 3. Grow Your Heart For PeoplePeople may not remember your name, but they will always remember how you made them feel. That's why in the end, what matters is how you treated others, whether with love and kindness or with jealousy and bitterness. Don't expect others to be mind readers. A lot of us are living with brains which think "She is my friend, she should have wished me at 12 am on my birthday", "They are my parents, they should have done this.." and the list goes on and on and on. Always remember the harder the expectations, the saddest the day becomes. Right? Have less judgement to have less expectations and when you will have less expectations - you will become a happier person and thus see how each and every bond starts to blossom. The main problem in relationships is communication, and that must be clear and up to the point. Sit down with your partner and without any judgment, take two sheets - write down both of your needs and for the next one week - operate through those and then see there will never be any problem arising in your relations. This world needs more love and kindness, contribute towards that change instead of breaking the world with more bitterness and resentment. Neither disappoint yourself nor give any chance to disappoint other people. ConclusionWell, I hope that my words really hit you hard to the bottom and you have realized the importance of forming connections with yourself, divine power and with the people around you. Here is a challenge for you - For the next 7 days, try dropping your judgement and see the beauty which resides within every soul. Remember the only thing that grows is what we focus on. So, if your eyes are always looking for the dirt behind the soul - you will always find the dirt but once you shift the perspective and focus on the good - believe me when you will find the way to the best - you won't even know!
Just for a recap - 1. Grow your trust to love yourself 2. Grow your faith in God so you can trust the divine timing 3. Grow your heart towards other people so you can connect with them at a deeper level Do share your thoughts below the post and if you are ready to drop your judgement for the next 1 week and only focus on the beauty of the soul, comment down below "CHALLENGE ACCEPTED" Let's ensure that the future lies in the safe hands. 4/22/2022 2 Comments The 5 Powerful Tips Which Can Help You To Build Self Esteem And Live A Life That You Can Be Proud Of!Your belief in yourself is what defines how much success you are going to achieve in your life because self esteem depends on two things which are you feel lovable and you feel you are capable! When you cultivate the unshakable belief in yourself, you automatically gain the confidence and courage to encounter all your limiting beliefs and the roadblocks which stop you from getting closer towards what you want in your life! Remember not even a single person on this planet is born with a positive mindset and an enlightening soul who has high self esteem within! It's all by the continuous efforts and actions that everyone gets the hang of it and thus, instead of we chasing for success, the success comes to us and we become the MAGNETIC MANIFESTORS in our lives! Doesn't it sounds powerful? But let me tell you, even if you are reading the blog and after it, you felt positive for some time, and then you get back to the old patterns of negativity, as most of the times happens! I want you to make a solid commitment to yourself that "You are going to be a MAHA ACTION TAKER, and you are going to implement at least one tip from today for the next one week to experience the magical transformation yourself and when you are consistent enough you can move on to the next one!" And as it's the month of soft and sunny April, let's get ourselves discovered so we can move on from dark to light paving a way to attract our diamond destiny. Let's start - 1. Identify Negativity Around YouIt's said that "You are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with". So, if you always get the feelings of hopelessness, negativity, judgements, resentment, fears, doubts, desperateness and laziness, it's a call for you to work on your surroundings, If you think the people around you they don't make you feel empowered, they don't encourage you to go beyond your wildest dreams, they don't believe in your ability and always keep on laughing on you which somewhere deep down within you kills, then you need to make a change, I have observed many people having high self esteem turn into the low ones just because their friends gave a bad and embarrassing compliment on their body shape, because of the pimples on their face, because they have scored less marks, and due to all of this - their tube of negativity in their minds get lightened again and again and it becomes strong, thus the person develops a deep emotion regarding it and if he or she tried to forget, the feelings, the experience come back again, and it results in their fall down or emotional breakdown. But can I tell you something today - If you don't like yourself, then don't expect others to like you. The other thing of negativity coming around us is because we constantly keep watching TV and that too - the news, the negative one! This is the major problem, every night before going to bed - WHAT ARE YOU DOING? You are damaging your soul, you are delaying your success, you are sending negative vibes to the UNIVERSE and that's why from everywhere you look around - you are ATTRACTING the negativity in terms of people, surroundings, places, etc. The one reason I don't like to listen to news is because the media spreads negativity, Even if there is a small issue, they will turn that small stuff into a big one! Don't misunderstand me please, I hope you are going to take this with a positive mindset and the intelligence! We all have locked our door to intelligence because of our Ego's, because we feel comfortable being in our comfort zones. I have so many people come to me and ask - How do I develop a positive mindset? I simply tell them to make a joy list (a list of 10 things which make them happy) and find some time to spend with yourself, and use it to discover your hidden potential. You know, what I get as a reply - "I don't have time". But, can I tell you something? You have enough time! You have time to watch tv, you have time to go out with your friends and family, you have time to do your office or school work, but when it comes to prioritizing yourself, and that too for one hour, you step back! Why is it so? If you don't have time, cut out your one hour of television, stop wasting time by scrolling through social media, and you will find the time. The one tip I will give you here is to keep yourself at the top of your to do list every single day, and everything will fall into place! Remember until and unless you don't spare some time out, until and unless you don't ask yourself deep questions like 'What are my fears?", "What do I want to achieve from my life?", "What are my needs and expectations from others?", "How do I want to treat myself so others treat me the same?", and stuff like that.., until and unless you don't attain clarity in your destination, you will never be able to understand yourself, you will never be able to switch off the strong tube of negativity in your head! Change begins within, just make a note of that! The first and foremost step in order to build high self esteem is to take conscious steps towards surrounding yourself with the people who you admire, the people who can make you believe in yourself and be aware of each one of them. Ever heard of FENG SHUI? It's a Chinese art of spatial energy balance . The word Feng means wind and Shui means water, so this means that these two elements - wind and water are the essential components of Chinese spiritual health! So, it follows the principle of keeping your environment in such a way that when you look at it, whether it's your office or home or any place you are at, you literally feel the magic, it calms down your mind's speed, reduces the monkey chatter and allows your soul to speak to you in silence. You automatically catch the energy of the room, and it helps you to envision your future or your dreams indicating good luck, and better opportunities for your best life! Feng Shui has literally changed my entire life, and I can tell you - I have been following this since last few months, but I got to know the accurate practice last month! It's all about creating your own sacred space in your home, creating pleasure points which can make you feel content and joyful whenever you sit there. The best practice for you is to - 1. Decide your own safe space in your home 2. Set the environment, ask yourself "How should it make you feel?" 3. Based on your word, keep the things which radiate that energy. For me, the word is hope and energetic. I have set my space in a way that it relaxes my soul and no matter how tired I feel, it pushes me to keep working hard towards my goals. I have my vision board, whenever I look at it, I get a silent push to ask myself "WHAT CAN I DO MORE?" and the kind of ideas I get from my inner coach, are just fantabulous. I am a spiritually grounded person, so I like to keep a nice small statue of Ganesha on my table which also symbolizes the remover of obstacles :), I have my ring light, my diary and books which I read every morning, a whole calendar of affirmations which I got as a gift and these are all the little things which makes me feel happy, which gives me a reason to believe that "IT IS POSSIBLE" What is it for you? Ask yourself! 2. Use The Power Of PositivityHere, I would like to address - FEAR OF SUCCESS! Ever heard of it before? Many times, we all have some fears deep down within and our inner critic speaks to us like this - "WHAT IF I don't stay humble?", "WHAT IF I am not able to manage each and every arena of my life?", "WHAT IF this or that goes wrong?" and questions like that! Can I inspire you to change these negative what if's into positive ones? Ask yourself -
Instead of saying yourself "What if I am not capable?" - Can you say - "What if I am capable?" Instead of questioning your path by listening to your inner critic "What if I am on the wrong path?" - Can you say "What if I am at the right place and it is the right place for me right now?" These are called affirmations which are the positive statements a person repeats to himself to reduce his little voice and train it to act in favor of him and his destiny. Believe me, this will change the game of your life, I sometimes, have too many doubts whether this is the right fit for me or not, whether I will be able to manage, whether I will be able to do this thing or not, I just journal out my thoughts and keep on asking myself deep questions and twist the negative statements into the positive ones which make me feel worthy and loved! By following this, you will start cultivating new positive seeds in your mind which will give way to moving on from low self esteem to high! If you don't know much about affirmations, I have some guides related to affirmations which can help you to form your own. Feel free to use them in the beginning and as you move on, you can add your flavors to the same :) Download them! 3. Take New ChallengesThe best way to convince yourself that you are capable of achieving your goals and dreams, is to stand in front of the mirror, look in the person's eyes straight, shake your body and then with full energy and excitement say "I AM READY!! I AM AN ACTION TAKER NOT AN IDEA CHANGER, I AM READY TO BUILD MYSELF!" I hope you are catching the same energy in which I am writing this blog! The moment you make up your mind for something, it is going to happen because it's all a game of commitment, discipline and confidence. Each one of us starts strong, but only few cross the finishing line and that's where the magic actually begins! But, the major problem of not taking action is our own fears. Don't you agree with me? But what if I give you a magical video to deal with it. It's a 36 minutes video and believe me, I have addressed the eleven shocking resistances which come in our way rather I should say these are the uninvited guests which keep visiting us to make us believe that we cannot do it! Go and watch the video and then come back for some action! I can't see you, but I definitely trust you that you must have watched the video and you had many bulb on moments :) Now, it's time for some action because that's the bridge between you and your goals!
This is the secret strategy that I follow to beat my resistance! Remember if you are not willing to change your own life, no one in this world can ever help you, so take that first step right now my sweetheart. 4. Acknowledge Your SuccessesOften, it happens that we don't acknowledge our successes, we don't celebrate that we have taken the first step, we don't bless our lives by appreciating ourselves for the good we are doing in this world, we don't take the time out to remember all the wonderful souls around us who are always there to make us feel happy whenever we are sad, but from today the one attitude I would like you to carry forward is APPRECIATION and GRATITUDE. Find some ways or things in your environment which will remind you to take a pause from your work life, from your daily routine and simply take some time out to appreciate everything we have in the moment of NOW. Remember if you feel depressed, you are living in the past, if you feel anxious you are living in the future but if you are really happy with your life, you are living in the correct time which is NOW! Live every single day as if it were your last. Ask yourself - "HOW WOULD YOU PERFECT DAY BE LIKE?" A perfect day is like something which is unimaginable for you. I learnt about this concept from my mentor - Mr. Siddharth Rajsekar and believe me when I sat down to write it, I wrote around 2-3 pages! Take a moment now, allow yourself to dream, take your journal out and imagine what would you be doing, how would your day start, where would you go, with whom you would meet, where would you live, what legacy would you create, etc. It's a very powerful exercise, and after you have written down - ask yourself "HOW CAN I LIVE IT NOW?" The one ultimate solution or answer is by carrying the attitude of gratitude. Because when you are in a state of abundance, the Universe wants you to experience more of that by giving it. So, today if you feel you are living in scarcity, change it by changing the level at which your energy level vibrates. Every single day, when you wake up - write down five things for which you feel grateful and every single night, before bed - write down what all have gathered and achieved? Wake up in gratitude and sleep in abundance! 5. Take Care Of Your WellbeingWhen you feel good in your heart, mind, soul and body, that's when your ability and capacity to do more and more to reach your goals increases. And, that's why it's very important for you to take good care of yourself! I can tell you being a student, I too feel stressed sometimes when it becomes difficult for me to manage my studies and my passion because everything needs time, effort and energy. I too sometime feel drained and freaked out, tired of doing the same things every day - but you know what! I never get bored, I gamify the days and challenge myself and that's why my spirit seems unbreakable! I spare 3 hours of my whole day for self care! In mornings, to set my heart, mind, soul and body, I have inculcated a morning routine of 2 hours which makes me feel happy and content to relax my mind and see the day as a new opportunity to build myself and evolve into the next level :) and before bed, I take half an hour where I plan my next day, I acknowledge myself for working so hard, I do a 15-20 mins self care routine for my skin and eyes. Hmm, doesn't it sound sweet? Make your own routines and see how can you start building the habit of self care and self love because as you know you will only be able to give out love when your own cup is full! ConclusionYou have been criticizing yourself for so many years consciously or unconsciously, and it has not worked for you, try inculcating the new patterns of self love to see what if it works? You are needed in this world, you have a gift within you, take some time out to reflect back on your journey, to learn from the mistakes you have made and to pat yourself on the back for everything you have been doing up until now. I hope this blog really hit you hard and gave you many aha moments which you will cherish forever by implementing them in your life. Challenge yourself every single day to follow these habits by taking one at a time and once you are satisfied and you get the results, move on to the next! These are not something just written to inspire you, I have following this since last one year and they have played a huge role in diminishing the evil so that the light, can show me the way! Loads of love to you, and if you would like to continue with me on this journey, get into my inner circle where I will be sending you daily messages to inspire and illuminate the spark within you. Give me the chance to hold your hand and show you the things which you never knew existed in you. If you found this useful, please share it with someone who may need it, I cannot reach to each and very person in this world but I can surely reach to you to spread my message which is vital to learn in order to not just survive, but to thrive :) and I hope you are going to carry my legacy forward. Help me to help you better and make a difference which is a need of the moment!!!
Share your thoughts below and I would personally reply to each one of them. 4/15/2022 13 Comments The 3 Most Powerful Lessons I Learnt In My Life Up Until Now and How Can They Benefit You?Often in lives, we get so busy that we miss out on the lessons that the Universe wants to teach us. So, today I just took the time out to reflect on my backstory and share some very powerful lessons that I learnt up until now! First of all, I want you to know that this post is not dedicated to everyone, it's for those who want to know how to turn their NOW into a WOW, so they can simplify the game of life and have fun with it rather than taking everything too seriously! 1. Transform Yourself, Not OthersThis is the one of the most vital lessons of my journey, it helped me to overcome my pain and tap into my true power and capability of doing something I never imagined. When I lost my loved one, I used to blame everyone around me, I used to make excuses and play the complaining game. I still remember the fake smile I used to give to everyone just to show them I am fine but deep down I knew I was not! I still remember the days when I used to cry out loud when no one was at home, just to exhale all the things which used to burden my chest. I still remember the days when I used to have the feelings of anger and resentment towards God because I kept asking him the one ridiculous question - "why me?" But, one day when I was sick and tired of being sick and tired - when I was completely burnt out of what all I was going - I told myself - "Gargi, You cannot change anyone around you, you cannot rewind the past, you cannot fix the broken relations, but you can surely do one thing and that is to CHANGE YOURSELF. I think that was the last day of mine when I ever cried and begged people around me to love and care for me! I was still not happy, because that was a risk that I took but still I knew I was going on the right path. I started to watch videos on YouTube to motivate me and help me to overcome my loss, but nothing worked, I started listening the motivational songs, but they only worked for a temporary period! I needed to find the permanent solution and that was - To accept myself and the true reality of my life. To ACCEPT and ACKNOWLEDGE that no more, I was in my comfort zone and no matter how hard I try to settle everything, I would be the victim of the whole game. I stopped all of that and I simply asked myself the one powerful question that I knew By THAT TIME and that was - WHAT DO I WANT? I started making my own bucket list, but I wanted it to look creative so I searched on google about how to make a bucket list? And, there I discovered something very new and exciting. I read "BECOME AN AUTHOR", honestly speaking since my childhood I only had 3 professions in my mind that I wanted to pursue - Teacher, Doctor Or Engineer. The writing and speaking world was far from my expectations, but when I started reading the bucket lists on google, I was inspired that there is so much more in this world apart from the common professions. I started exploring, based on what I learnt from my painful experience - I started to write a book "The Lion-Hearted Soul" to educate, inspire and illuminate the spark within each soul who reads it. To make a long story short, the one lesson that I still carry with me today is YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN OF YOUR OWN LIFE. If you don't like something, you always have a choice to change it. We humans think that we are afraid of darkness, are you? Maybe yes! But, can I tell you something today? You, my sweetheart, are not afraid of darkness, because that's where you live. You are afraid to leave that dark place and take some risks to find the spark within you. The one thing that I want you to take away from my first lesson is no matter who you are today. no matter what your background is, no matter how many people support you, if you truly believe that you have the power to change something, you can! The one question that you need to keep asking yourself is "AM I HAPPY?", and if your answer is no, then it's time for you to leave that job and start your own business, it's time for you to stop begging people and start loving yourself, it's time for you to take your power back, it's time for you to rewrite your story and message. So, COME FROM ZERO BUT I DARE YOU TO TURN YOURSELF INTO A HERO. Have a Big Heart And A Thick SkinYou must have seen people appreciating me because of the work I am doing right now at such a tender age, but can I reveal you the other side of the coin? You have seen people applauding and praising me on my social media and in my webinars, but you have not seen people criticizing me on my personal walls by telling me that "I am so young, what can I teach them?", by saying me "No one wants to listen you" and bla bla bla. The first time I received such comment, I felt bad but today when I receive them, I feel super happy, you know why? Because people are giving me that much attention and those people are not liking it! But, do you think am I going to stop? Do you think because of 5-6 people I will lose my spirit of working hard towards my goals? Absolutely not! Has it ever happened with you? And, the biggest enemy of yours is your own little voice which will keep popping up from within to tell you that you are not good enough, that you should take some rest. You know what, right now, when I am writing this article or blog post, can I tell you - I am feeling lazy and I am trying to push myself harder and harder so my inner critic stops coming up! Even when I was sick, I used to show up every single day for my tribe, for my people because I believe that when someone trusts me, I must give them 10x value? Can I tell you, most of my preparations for my presentations have been made at the last moment, can I tell you that when my webinars used to happen, sometimes I just felt to cancel them! Doesn't it happen with you? So, the message that I want you to remember here is no matter how many dream stealers are there around you, no matter how many people try to fade your dreams away, no matter what your inner critic says to you - you must have a big heart to accept all of it with grace, gratitude and humility and instead of showing them hate, give them love, show them the light, and also you must have a thick skin to turn your breakdowns into your breakthroughs. Let's stop giving up and start getting up. 3. Hope Is The One Word I Believe In The Most!Hope is the one thing I believe in the most, you know why? Because this is what keeps me going whenever I feel sad or anxious sometimes, it makes me believe that everything is going in a divine plan and one day, I am going to get to the place where I want to be. When you feel sad at times, I just want you to remind yourself that God is with you and he is always watching you, When I was in depression, the one thing I always kept reminding myself was "Someday, I will get out of all this, it will get over soon!" Whenever I felt like giving up, I did not because this is what popped up in my head. I see it as a light despite all the darkness! CONCLUSIONI hope that my three lessons helped you to see that apart from the negativity and the craziness of this world, we have so much to look up to - positivity, hope and faith. Remember if you yourself are not ready, no one else is because the key to the locked door of your future lies in your hands. The day you will start to nurture your own self with your own love, the day you will start to take some time out to reflect back on the lessons you have learnt up until now, that will be the last day of your pain and the first day towards your greatness!
4/7/2022 3 Comments The One Mind blowing Reason For Why You Should Never Ever Help The People You Love!Do you help a lot of people? Do you feel you don't allow others to go the way they want rather you force them to do the work in your way because you think that's far more appropriate and better than what they are doing? Do you always nag your friends and loved ones for something they did wrong? Do you feel bad and depressed when you make a big mistake?
If all these questions resonates with you, then I congratulate you for being at the right place with the right person and at the right time! You see, it's a humanly nature to constantly point out mistakes and flaws in someone, don't you agree with me? Let me explain this concept by giving a very simple example to you - suppose we both are best friends and we have known each other since our childhood. I am confused in my professional life - and I have two options - Either I should become a doctor or I should become a life coach. And, because I am not able to seek for the answer, I am feeling confused what will you say to me? You will definitely give your advise and you will try to help me out to choose one career. But don't you think the option that you will give me will be based on your outlook? Won't you try to push me towards the career you have decided for me? See, this happens in each and every relationship. If suppose we feel stuck anywhere in our lives, our loved ones try to help us and they give their opinions! I have so many friends of mine who have told me that their parents want them to pursue the career of being a doctor or an engineer, some even don't know what they want to become, and even if they do know - they don't get the support from their family and friends. Does this sound familiar to you? But, you know what, stop giving advice and at the same time - stop helping those you love! Do you know why am I telling you this? Because life is a journey and we learn by making big big mistakes. If I take my own personal example, I have had so many people who have told me that the career of motivational speaking is not good, or it will not allow you to earn money, and stuff like that.. but you know what I don't believe in such statements because I know how much hard work I do on a daily basis and that makes me believe that I am capable and anything is possible! The point that I want you to understand is stop passing negative comments over what other people want to do, stop giving suggestions to people. start encouraging them, allow them to make their own decisions, allow them to pave their own path, allow them to make mistakes! Because when they choose the path on their own, they know why they have chosen it, they know what they have to do and even if in future, something happens, they will never blame because it was their own decision and if they ever feel that their heart does not want to pursue that path, they are free to start with the other one! Gone are the days when people used to suffer and stay quiet, today it's time to stand up for yourself. Today, it's time to listen to what your heart wants, you will find many people in your journey who will try to give suggestions and these are made out of love, even if your parents or your elders are not allowing you to pursue the career you want - understand that if they were you, they would have done the same. They are seeing your life as they would have lived if they were you, but make them understand what you want, make them believe in yourself! And, this all will only happen when you start to believe in your own power and potential, and when will you be able to believe in yourself? When you will respect the person you are today by forgiving who you were and enjoying with who you are becoming day by day. Everything begins from self! This magical article is not dedicated to everyone, it's only for those who understand the power of guidance and not suppression! This is for those who understand the power of making big big mistakes. Remember you always have a choice, awake and start before you are even ready. Hey there, are you a community maker or an empire builder? Are you someone who is always after people or people come to you to discuss their problems because they feel safe while doing so? Are you someone who truly believes in his or her inner potential?
This is going to be a short blog over something which is new yet exciting for me and I would love to inspire you from this post so when you start spreading your power and influence across the world, you make a tribe of educative buyers who carry forward your legacy instead of working with the impulsive ones. When you hear the word "Leader", which names come in your head? Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Adolf Hitler and many such names! Right? Why do you think they were leaders? What made them so famous? Why people used to get influenced and impacted by their words? Was this only because they had great knowledge and experience? Absolutely not! There is one thing which makes every great leader stand apart from the rest of the crowd, do you know what it is? It is about their ability to impact the mass through their context and capability to hold a tribe with code of honor. Each one of us have a story, have a message inside of us and the ability to not just find that message but be able to communicate that message to the world is something different. Code of honor, not just in leadership but in every area of life matters where you lead your life by setting some rules for yourself and thus you show up in the world with the same energy. For example, one of my highest values is authenticity, and if I think I am not being authentic somewhere, or to please someone else I am trying to change myself, I don't overthink instead I make a decision to not play that drama anymore of pretending to be someone else and I just come out of it. Similarly, I want to throw a question on you - What is your highest value? Remember you attract the people who are just the reflection of you. So, if ever you feel that your environment is toxic, fix the problem within you! Automatically, your environment gets fixed. But, why am I telling you this? Because, in every arena of life, you have to show up as a leader - if you are the owner of a shop or a company, you must have the ability to communicate well so people get the message you are trying to tell them, if you are a sales manager, you must have the ability to sell your products well, if you are a trainer or a coach, you must have the ability to lead people! So, you see in every area of life, how you show up matters! And, not only the message matters, you must create a community of champions who can carry forward your legacy when they are training other people on their topic. When you look back, each of the famous leaders build an empire of their own and till today, those principles are evergreen! Don't you want to be remembered by the people around you when you die? And, here's a secret to be able to build a tribe or an empire of your own - you must face your own problems. When you see negativity, look for the opportunities.. You cannot target everyone, filter out the ones who are yours! You have it in you, the one thing that makes a leader stand out from the rest is his ability to not only educate and empower people around him, but to hold them together and teach them the lesson of collaboration! This is dedicated to the aspiring leaders who trust their message, and want to leave their legacy in this world by not just building a community, but a whole empire of transformational masters! Hey there, do you think life is a struggle? Do you treat life as some sought of puzzle? Do you experience bad days? Do you learn some lessons out of it or do you just keep on crying like a 5 year old? What type of life are you living - charged, comfortable or caged? Before we start, let me first congratulate you for being at the right place, at the right time and being with the right person. This place is designed for you to design your life with love. We all have good, bad, worst and best days in our lives and each day is meant to teach us some lessons either in a fun way or a hard way. But, it's our responsibility to get those lessons right into our brains, so we don't repeat the same mistakes again and again and can improvise the next time. But, before I share the three lessons I learnt recently, I have a concern for you! And the concern is that you won't read the full article, you know why? Because most people drop off and take a step behind whenever it comes to implement something which is not easy. Let me tell you the problem with the world - the problem is that instead of listening to our hearts, we listen to our minds and your mind will always tell you that" You cannot do whatever you are thinking of", and thus we listen and we step back! Mind's mission gets accomplished because the purpose of your brain is to keep you locked in the things in which you find pleasure. Isn't it? To be more clear, let's take the example of studies. Why most of us don't like to study? Why do we feel math or science or any other subject is boring? Because our nerves sends electrical signals to our brain saying "THIS TASK IS PAINFUL", and thus when the mind receives this message from our body or the cells, it does it's best to distract you that's why you will find most of the teens seeing their phones while studying :), agree? Let's come back to the main lessons and it's a challenge on you to read the full blog, understand the lessons, apply them in your life and to comment down "What was the one bulb on moment for you?" 1. Let Your God Guide You Rather Than Your Self DoubtsMost of the times, whenever something bad happens, we start playing the blame game and we make such ridiculous excuses for not reaching our targeted goals or we start complaining about everything that happens around us. Always remember that God is always with you, though you cannot see him, but he can! And no God will ever hurt his child, I agree that in life we have to face a lot of challenges like loss of a loved one, divorce, financial problems, poverty, depression and many more but keep in mind that there is always a message in the mess. Even if your eyes cannot find the message, seek for it. Let me share my personal experience with you - During Covid pandemic, I lost someone I really loved and our family relations broke down and I was in severe pain because I believe loving someone is pretty easy but when it comes to bid a goodbye it really becomes hard, don't you agree with me? During those days, I lost my trust on God and I kept blaming him, every day I used to ask the painful question to him "WHY ME GOD? I never hurted someone, then why are you doing this to me?" This question would make me feel like a victim of the whole game and I used to burst into tears! Do you think asking this ridiculous question settled down everything to a calm state? Do you think my tears had an impact on my circumstances? Absolutely not, as the days passed by, I started to lose trust on my ability to overcome such darkness. I still remember the days when I used to have a fake smile, I still remember the days when I pretended to be someone else to make everyone happy around me - but you know what - none of them worked! The day finally came when I decided to stand up for myself because I was completely sick and tired of being sick and tired! Has it ever happened with you too? As I started to change myself, started working on myself - I regained the lost me and the connection with my God. And today, I know why it happened with me at such a tender age! Because God wanted me to be his channel to spread out the message to the youth of this world - "There is no age to start what you love", Being a 15 year old young lady, I truly can feel the power and potential within me that comes out every day to spread the same message, to prove it to the society that "We need to use our breakdowns as our breakthroughs, and we must surrender to our God" Isn't it? Even today, no matter whatever I go through each day whether good or bad, you know what - I don't complain anymore! I don't make excuses anymore! I don't blame God and the people anymore! Instead, I say to myself out loud - "IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME AND IF I FEEL THAT SOMETHING IS AGAINST ME, GOD I LEAVE IT TO YOU. GIVE ME THE STRENGTH AND COURAGE TO FACE IT AND TO LEAVE IT TO YOU BECAUSE I KNOW YOU ARE ALWAYS THERE FOR ME" That's sit. The lesson that I want you to learn from my experience is NEVER ASK "Why me", instead thank God because these challenges will help you to discover who you are, why you are here and what's your message for this world? Trust the process and believe in the highest guru - Your God! 2. Overwhelm comes when your dreams are bigger than the person you are today.Overwhelm, a common problem of this world! Have you ever noticed when you have a big vision and you have understood it, you are feel stuck on how to start? When I started on this motivational speaking and writing journey, I was not too sure of my mission. I was simply giving the trainings on the topics I was given, by sharing my personal experiences and how did I sought out the problems. But as I started to grow, as I started to understand my audience, as I started attending international webinars and seminars by various successful personalities, I got to know what my message was. As I got clear on my message, I didn't really understand what audience did I want - youth, adults or old people? But slowly and steadily, I f=got clarity in that as well and I understood that teenagers were my target! After getting enough clarity, I still didn't know how to build and establish my brand because I didn't want to come on social media and get exposed to it, because I thought it's all a waste of time, and it will be my biggest distraction, But instead of listening to my inner critic, I got into the action mode and I started to work hard towards building my brand on social media - and as days passed by, I started to get the courage and consistency in my work! Earlier, I used to feel overwhelm regarding where should I start, what should I do, how should I get more reach, whose going to listen to me - but instead of cracking my head against this wall of hard questions, I just took a paper out and wrote down what all I needed to do in order to get known and be visible in the online world - I divided my goals into daily, weekly and monthly and you know what, till today I do the same. The one question that people always ask to me is "Gargi, How are you so consistent?" Now, I have revealed my secret, so the lesson or the message that I want you to know here is it's okay to be overwhelmed. In order to get out of this form of resistance, take out your diary and write down all the thing you need to do in order to start! Then, each day pick 2-3 and start working towards it. Like, I divide my goals on a weekly basis - basically in order to get more visible and to get people attracted towards the work I do, I divide the tasks - each day I tell myself - either make a reel for Instagram, video for YouTube or blog for website, no matter what you do, something needs to be done and if it is not done - you are not going to sleep! It's a deadline for me and so I am able to catch up and keep my consistency muscle. Do this activity, implement and it will definitely work! 3. Commitment Is Greater Than Your MoodDo you follow Certainty in your life? Do you know what am I talking about? Certainty is basically carrying an attitude of either do it or don't! You don't have to try, you either do or don't. For example, if I have set a goal for the next one week that I am going to call one person each day whom I love! And, so in order to build my commitment muscle - I won't say - I WILL TRY TO CALL, instead I will say "I WILL DO IT FOR SURE". Able to understand the difference between the two? But why am I relating this to commitment? Because if you say you will try, I know you will never do it! And thus, your emotions will take charge and control you. Sometimes, you know what, when I have to give any motivational talk to a group - before 1 or 2 hours, I don't feel like giving because I start to feel lazy and it's okay! I feel like cancelling the webinar and go to sleep or enjoy life, but when the time comes - I ultimately raise my energy to give a powerful talk to my audience. So, here comes the role of commitment. That's why I love to make public declarations, whatever goal I have set - I tell it to the people I trust, and they motivate me to accomplish it! The message that I want you to understand is - Your commitment matters and in order to build this muscle, start to apply the attitude of doing not trying. Start with one easy habit for the next week and make sure, you do it every single day! I can guarantee, you won't be the same person by the next week if you continuously do. And, in this way you are going to build a powerful personality where your subconscious and conscious mind will develop a healthy relationship between each other and you will stick to your words! CONCLUSIONWell, if you have been reading this and you have reached here - I would like to appreciate you for completing the challenge and this proves me you are beyond limitless :) This blog was not for everyone, it was for those who believe that life is a journey and to achieve whatever we want to in our future, we must keep some hard lessons in our mind so we don't repeat them again! You are amazing my sweetheart, all the best and God Bless! GIFT FOR YOUIf you are someone who is struggling in his or her life, if you think your personal life is having a lot of issues and you are not able to take charge, you are not able to overcome them, I invite you to book a free clarity call with me where I can work with you on a deeper level to find out the root cause of your problems! Hey there, do you want to live a happy life? Do you struggle to find happiness? Do you feel that you are deprived of being happy? Are you living a balanced or harmonious life? Let's me tell you some secrets regarding happiness today that I think one should know, and I personally apply them on a daily basis and it has changed my life. First of all, let me congratulate you by seeing that you are at the right place, at the right time and you are absolutely reading the right blog. 1. Happiness Lies WithinWe humans often have a tendency to find happiness in the external world - always going after the materialistic things. We are unaware of the fact that the thing we actually look for is found within ourselves, and if you want to try it out, you can. You know what, I have often seen people blaming, complaining and making excuses about everything that happens in their lives, they need to understand that doing such kinds of things will never serve them, they are actually doing disservice to themselves and the people they surround themselves with! Have you ever heard the folklore in which, a Kasturi deer is unaware of its perfumed navel and keeps running hither and thither in the forest, not knowing that it is its own stomach that is spreading the heady perfume around! See, that's the irony. But why am I sharing this old story or folklore with you? Because we humans have a similar story. Everything that we need in our life, lies within us. The infinite intelligence within ourselves has all the answers, but why aren't we able to get them? The answer is pretty simple, because we don't take the moment to look within ourselves. We all have become people pleasers these days where whatever we need, we just beg and we think begging will open the golden doors for us, but that's not the case my friend. Stop being a people pleaser, start nurturing your own little baby which is within you and your subconscious mind will get you there. 2. Set Boundaries In LoveHere's a question that I want to ask you today - What if there was no wall between your house and your neighbor's house? Would you feel comfortable? Would you not feel suffocated because then you will be deprived of your privacy? I am sure that you may be nodding your head and saying "No, Absolutely not! I would never ever allow it to happen." Am I right? Have you not wondered that while we are in relationships with others, may be it is your life partner, your spouse, your parents, your friends - in every bond, we humans have a habit of giving everything of ourselves into that relationship and expect the same results and behavior from the other person. And, when our expectations doesn't get fulfilled, we start calling that person as an "evil or a monster", am I not right? Honestly speaking, expectations have been my biggest weakness and if I don't receive the same love from the person I love, I start to feel as a victim of the whole game and my energy keeps reducing whenever I find myself with him/her. But, you might be thinking "What are boundaries?" See, in the above example, I gave you a situation in which if you didn't have a wall between your house and your neighbor's one, you would feel queer and uncomfortable. Similarly, in relationships, you need to set boundaries which is nothing but just another term for self love. Remember everything starts from you, so don't dare to think that self love is selfish! In order to not feel as a victim in any relationship or to live a peaceful and a happy life, you must do justice with your own self too. You and your voice both matters! Set some boundaries and stick to them. For example, If you are a person who wants to leave all the digital devices by 6 pm and then just focus on your own work, and if your friend comes at your doorstep to invite you in a party, I am sure you would be in a dilemma because you have spared that time for working on a project such as opening your own business. But, if this happens in reality, you would definitely say "YES" to your friend and you are creating an imbalance between your conscious and your subconscious mind! Do you get that? Stick to your words, communicate nicely to your friend "My sweetheart, I definitely want to join you at the party but right now I have some urgent work and I spared this time for working on my project. Would surely join in the next one. Enjoy!" That's sit! Can't you say this much to your friend? Saying "NO" will never make you selfish and even if others think, make them understand by communicating your boundaries in a well defined manner. For example, one of my boundaries is - Whenever I have to make a video, I clearly communicate it to my family members that please don't come in this room for 1 hour otherwise I won't feel comfortable. Hope you will understand" and you know what, my family supports me every time. So, one homework that I would like to give you is please set some boundaries for yourself, do some justice with your own life too! 3. Intention Setting ExerciseHow do you start your day? Today, I am going to tell you a very important concept and exercise that if you implement on a daily basis can change your life forever! I started doing this exercise few months ago and I highly recommend you to follow. What happens, whenever we wake up, we immediately check our mobile phones and this puts our brain into a havoc mode and then we are not able to focus and concentrate on our work all throughout the day and thus we feel lazy, bad, and unproductive. But, always remember that it's never too late to begin! Rather than checking your phone, I want you to spend some time in the morning to plan out what are you going to do that particular day, visualize the whole process for 5 minutes and then, set a specific intention. For example, when I wake up, I always ask myself this one question "Gargi, this is what an ordinary Gargi would do, but what can an extraordinary Gargi can do? or in other terms, how do you want to feel today? What kind of experience would you like to have?" Voila, in this way I am able to plan out my whole day and I act accordingly. Suppose my intention for today is to have fun, then I will spend only half of my day working on my business and the rest of the day, I will do the things which relax me and my mind, which makes me happy like going out on a walk, talking with one of my friends, etc. So, I hope by now you must have understood the power of doing this exercise on a daily basis. Don't believe a word of mine, do it yourself and it's guaranteed, that the magic will surely happen!! 4. Send out 3 appreciation lettersRemember to carry the attitude of gratitude every single day. Every day, appreciate yourself and others who you surround yourself with. In order to deepen your bonds with other people, and to live a life full of happiness and love, I highly recommend you to follow this tool or exercise which is sending out messages of appreciation and love to the people you love or you rarely talk with them. You know what, when you are going to follow this habit every single day, your self esteem, your confidence will boost up in a way that you would not have imagined. Make sure to try this fun activity and see what people have to say about you. One more thing, it's not only about appreciating them, every single morning, I want you to answer this one powerful question "What are the things I appreciate about myself?", we often have a tendency to ignore ourselves and this lowers our own self esteem and thus, we don't have the ability to believe in ourselves. Try these two fun activities and if you stay consistent, the kind of life you will create for yourself will be unimaginable. 5. Own Your RockstarnessIf you have been reading my blog since the starting point, you are already a Rockstar my darling! I am so proud of you and I believe in you more than you do. Stop thinking about what other people are going to say about you and start focusing on what you are going to say about yourself. You are a unique personality, I can't see you but I definitely know the power hidden inside you. Start facing your fears, come out of the darkness and start to see the light, start facing life instead of running away from day to day challenges. You, my sweetheart, are more than you think and you must follow the law of attraction that is to ask what you want without any fears, believe and trust in the process, work hard and you shall recieve what you want. ConclusionI hope by this time, you are crystal clear on what are the 5 secrets to live a happy life. I love you for who you are and you are so much more than you think. Every day, you are born again and as each day is passing by, you are getting closer and closer towards your finishing line. Remember ordinary people start strong and extraordinary finish strong. This is not dedicated to everyone, this blog is written for those who believe in the beauty of their dreams and always aspire to live a happy life!
Sending you loads of love my sunshine! Hey friend, hope you are doing awesome So, do you want to make your 2022 look miraculous? Do you want it to be your magnet to miracles? Do you want it to be the best year possible? Do you want your 2022 to look like 2021? I hope you don't want it that way! If that's the case, then you have come to the right place as my mission is to inspire, empower, educate and help people to train their brains by removing their mental blocks and leading their own magical pathways. So, today's blog is all about how you can make your 2022 a massive success and I will be sharing 5 tremendous tricks with you on the same. But, before we begin our journey – I want you to understand 3 simple concepts! 1. Be PreparedRemember emergencies in your life will never ever announce their arrival. Have you ever had the kind of experience where someone named "Change" knocked at your door and said to you "I am coming tomorrow, so be ready!". I hope you have never experienced such things :). In order to develop yourself into a completely evolved and grown-up soul, you need to understand that you have to be ready always. In other words, no matter, whatever happens, you should have the courage to keep going even in the toughest times of your life. Life is unpredictable, we never know what happens next, that's why I am awaring you of this concept! The organization in which I work – Adjoa Htc, its founder Mr. Richard Farouk Bossman always teaches me "Gargi, always be prepared for the worst and expect the best out of it". And, I really love the way he inspires me and never lets my spirit die. The best thing to do here is to set a clear vision and goals for yourself. Why am I saying you to do that? Because the reason behind whatever you do is strong enough, then you will never ever die from within, and even if you, you will never decide to give up. The number one reason why I see people failing or giving up is that they don't know why they do what they do. A survey was done long before ago where people were asked "Why do you wake up in the morning?", 19 out of 20 people didn't know why they wake up, they simply answered 'Because everyone does, that's why we do". Do you know what they are doing? They are destroying their own lives because if someone doesn't know where he needs to go, he will end up being in a place called anywhere and I guess that's the worst place to ever go. So, you better first set clear intentions before you take action! 2. One Decision Can Change EverythingYes, this is the most important thing that we humans need to understand. It only takes one decision to change your entire life. And, since it's your life – it totally depends on you how you will design your life. See, I know – Each one of us has a gift inside us, and if we are not sharing it with the world – we are simply being selfish. Don't compete with each other, cooperation goes for the long term! Your one choice can either make you or break you. You can never progress if you are not able to make decisions because sometimes our smallest choices decide our path. Now, you may think – How can I make better decisions? So, here are some of the tips I have for you –
3. Your Success Depends On Your Learning CurveHmm, so this is the last point, and then will get into our five tricks in order to have an amazing 2022! What do I mean by this statement – Your Success Depends On Your Learning Curve? It simply means that your success grows to the extent you grow in your life. If you are not learning, you are simply dying. That's why it's very important for you to keep evolving. Remember success is not a bus journey where you just need to board the bus and after some time, you will reach your destination. It is far more different than this, it's like a vessel journey, which means – You board the ship and then in between you will face any kinds of obstacles like tsunamis, storms, floods, and cold spells, and after thriving through each and every one of them – You reach your destination. In other words, success is not a destination, it's a journey where you will need to stay patient in order to achieve something phenomenal. You might be thinking that why I shared these 3 key lessons with you before diving into the main topic. That's because I want you to understand each and everything in depth so whenever you will have an unpredictable situation, you will be ready to fight back! Now, we shall dive into the five most beautiful tricks to become a magnet to miracles in 2022. Tremendous Tricks To Attract Anything You Want From Your Life In 20221. Be a Life-Long Learner
Commit to being a lifelong student in the school of life. Let me put it into yet another different manner – You have to be your own teacher in the school of life. What do I mean by these two statements? They simply mean that you need to play both roles – student and teacher in the school called life! In other words, you have to follow the golden triangle – Learn, Do, and Teach. Remember in order to achieve anything in your life, you have to develop a mindset of an implementer. As I mentioned earlier also – If you are not growing, you are simply dying. Albert Einstein says it in the right way "Commit yourself to lifelong learning. The most valuable asset you'll ever have in your mind and what you put into it". 2. Environment is the key The environment is greater than your willpower. If you feel lazy most of the time throughout your day, it means that you need to change your environment and well-being. Always remember that you are the sum total of all those with who you surround yourself. If you are surrounded by lazy people who don't have any dreams and who procrastinate way more than they work, it's obvious that you will attract the same vibe and thus you will end up being and doing nothing. But on the other side, if you will surround yourself with inspiring people who have a hunger within them to achieve something greater than them and their problems, then also you will catch the same vibe and you will too start dreaming and investing your time in the things that will help you to move closer towards your goals and dreams! 3. Find a mentor to get unstuck We all have some points in our lives where we feel stuck and we feel that we cannot do anything in our lives, thus we start to lose our spirits and we become like a walking-talking zombie. Learn from the mentors with who you feel aligned (value system). For this, I would highly recommend you to follow Success Gyan (India's largest personal development academy), they bring world-class education to your doorstep for free. Once you will begin your learning journey with them, you will fall in love with your life. 4. Take Action Action is the bridge between our reality and our dreams. Do you know each one of us lives two lives – The life we are currently living and the life we want to live. Always remember that ideas are worthless if you don't act upon them. First, get clear on the "WHY" part, once you can find that, the "HOW" part will automatically show up. Start with WHY, make plans, and then act upon them. Here, I would like to share "The Rule of 5" with you which was stated by Mr. Jack Canfield in his book "The Success Principles", he says "Do at least five things each day which you think are the most important for you and they can help you to move closer towards your goals and dreams." Start to implement this from now. In the morning after you perform all your rituals, set a clear intention by making a specific goal. 5. 4H Formula This is the most beautiful formula I have come across and it is stated by Mr. Surendran Jayasekar (Founder of Success Gyan). He says – Always be happy, hungry, humble, and helpful. To get this into a more clarified way –
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AuthorHello, I am Gargi Arya, the motivational speaker of ADJOA HTC and author of the book 'The Lion Hearted Soul'. I am 14 years old. I study in 10th grade in Ryan International School, Ghaziabad. To me, writing is just my thoughts flowing from my mind to the tips of my fingers and painting the pages of my precious diary. This website is all about you and for you. Remember treasure lies in solving mysteries. Let the power of self love reinvent yourself to create your dream life ! |